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Subject: How do I stand up to bullies?
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Hey I aint fat I am fit (as most backline rugby players are). I don't work out but I do on field excersis like push ups and sit ups - not body building stuff but it makes you tough. Oh and warning has been delivered. I don't get why people can't have two lives. On 1 side I am a rugby player, on the other a gamer. The two balance each other out. Anyway the guy looked shocked when he saw my bro.

  • 01.28.2005 11:11 PM PDT

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Posted by: diaper_baby
Hey guys thanks for your replies. I'm glad we had only 2 flamers out of many good replies. Trust me I am not 'incapable' of fighting (especially now) but I would only fight him to defend myself. I think I will get my brother and some rugby mates to "punish" him if it does not subside in a week. Of course I'll deliver the warning. And I can't wait to tell that guys blue and black face
"now whos cryin biatch!"
My bros game and he has a high position in the club so he'll get some guys. This isn't a mafia style bashing, it is more of a lesson for him. Anyway although the school will want to find out who did it, our school has good morals when it comes to bullying. They say that they would rather see someone fight back and hurt a guy rather than see him get bullied. He'll know that he deserved it. If he dobs then he'll lose even more rep.
I don't think it will come to this though, because when he sees my brother and friends he'll cak himself.


I don't think having your brother 'punish' him is the correct answer.

I'm beginning to doubt your claim of martial arts training, because you're straying awfully far from any discipline.

  • 01.29.2005 5:31 AM PDT
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It will be better when you leave high school.

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Hey i don't do tkd anymore partly because my school closed shortly after Igot my blackbelt. I have warned this guy and it is entirely his choice.

  • 01.29.2005 7:09 AM PDT

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Posted by: diaper_baby
Hey i don't do tkd anymore partly because my school closed shortly after Igot my blackbelt. I have warned this guy and it is entirely his choice.


You've warned him? So he can get just as big of a group to come after you and your brother?

You're acting foolishly. Violence for the sake of violence never solves a thing. Your dojo must have been very poor to let you get past a yellow belt without knowing that simple truth.

I would hesitate to tell anyone you study Tae Kwon Do, you haven't passed the mental aspect of it yet, so you are lying when you say you are a black belt, no matter what your instructor bestowed upon you. If he was accredited, and he passed out belts like that, I can see why he was shut down. True martial artists of almost any style or way, frown upon teaching techniques to people that aren't worthy to recieve them.

  • 01.29.2005 8:13 AM PDT
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I am labelled the "xbox nerd" at school and I have only 1 friend who is like me. We are hardcore halo fans but there are bullies who seek vengeance on us for liking xbox. Once 1 of them punched me in the face and my tank brother sorted him out, but mybrother said he would only do it once and I must stand up for myself. Sure I am a black belt in Taekwondo (as of 2 months ago) but that does not help verbal teasing. Any advice?

Kick his ass. Or, make fun of him. Or, just get over it. So, maybe you like Halo a ton. Is that a problem? Don't get all upset...you must live at a strage school to get beat up over liking xbox...

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Posted by: diaper_baby
I am labelled the "xbox nerd" at school and I have only 1 friend who is like me. We are hardcore halo fans but there are bullies who seek vengeance on us for liking xbox. Once 1 of them punched me in the face and my tank brother sorted him out, but mybrother said he would only do it once and I must stand up for myself. Sure I am a black belt in Taekwondo (as of 2 months ago) but that does not help verbal teasing. Any advice?

Stick and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. Try to ignore the c's they probably only do it because they are -blam!-y inadaquate and feel they need to prove them selves. Bet bill Gates was bullied at school for wearing glasses and not being mentaly subnormal. Look at where he got in life.

  • 01.29.2005 6:53 PM PDT
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Posted by: diaper_baby
I am labelled the "xbox nerd" at school and I have only 1 friend who is like me. We are hardcore halo fans but there are bullies who seek vengeance on us for liking xbox. Once 1 of them punched me in the face and my tank brother sorted him out, but mybrother said he would only do it once and I must stand up for myself. Sure I am a black belt in Taekwondo (as of 2 months ago) but that does not help verbal teasing. Any advice?

Stick and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. Try to ignore the c's they probably only do it because they are -blam!-y inadaquate and feel they need to prove them selves. Bet bill Gates was bullied at school for wearing glasses and not being mentaly subnormal. Look at where he got in life.

Umm... lots of people hate him?

Tristan ;-)

  • 01.29.2005 7:04 PM PDT
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I can't help but agree. I do taekwondo (black tip) and I (up until now, but I am anonymous) have never told anyone. Martial arts is a secret weapon. It is used only when you are attacked, and must come as a surprise. It is the ace up your sleeve. Check this guys background. He might be an insecure little boy who is regularly beaten. If he is not, then he is really bad. Really really bad. A bully from a good family is a bad story. They have chosen that path unaided by others. If you actually DO know taekwondo, then the next time he attacks you then finish him off with a strike to his gullet or a take down. If you take him down then when he is at your mercy, talk to him. Make him apologise in front of the gathering crowd and make him promise to show you respect. This should relly embarress him. DO NOT ATTACK HIM FIRST. This is lowering yourself to his pitiful level and that is not what you want. All martial arts are only for self defence. Still, if he attacks, this will be your chance to put him in line.


Agreed.

  • 01.29.2005 7:11 PM PDT
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A wise taekwondo instructor(my little cousin's) once told the older group(13-17),
"If they piss you off, ignore it. If they shove you, ignore it. If they try to hurt you, grab their wrist and flip him. The school board can't touch you for self-defense. But they can touch the bully." Of course, that was translated from WISE PERSON LINGO.

  • 01.29.2005 7:33 PM PDT
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By the way, having your brother stand up for you isn't the solution if you're as conscious about people verbally abusing you as I think you are. People will talk about you having your brother stand up for you behind your back. And sooner or later, you'll find out. And you won't like it. At all. So, wait till college comes along, or prove(Without going taliban on them) that you CAN defend yourself. I mean, flaunt your strength without actually hitting them. For instance, do 60 pushups in their face or something. Or get your friend and chuck a football at him from a distance. Do something to take the bully's mind off your "PWNING skills in Halo". As a last resort, tell a higher authority(Grade Dean or principal) privately that you do not feel safe around the bully and that you would like an accomodating class schedule to deal with it.

  • 01.29.2005 7:40 PM PDT

You have a right to defend yourself. If you are forced into a physical confrontation with these neanderthals, use any non-lethal means necessary to defend yourself. Fight dirty if you have to. This will sound lame, but think to yourself "what would the Master Chief do?" Stand up for yourself. Just because you enjoy something does not give these morons the right to persecute you. However, if you sink to their level, you simply give them what they want. So, ignore them as best you can. But if it comes to a fight, don't hold back and show them you will not tolerate being made fun of. If they're bigger than you remember Bruce Lee, he was small yet powerful.

  • 01.29.2005 7:42 PM PDT
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Posted by: in soap we trust
shoot everyone in your school

Except replace "everyone in your school" with "in soap we trust"...

Tristan ;-)

  • 01.31.2005 9:16 PM PDT
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No, the best thing to do is
1.Get a soggy Manilla Envelope.
2.Go to his house late at night when no one will be around but his parents and him.
3.Tie him down.
4. Castrate him with the soggy manilla envelope.
5.Urinate all over his face.
6.Run like heel before his parents take out their shotgun and blast your ass.
7.When you get home, giggle, send me a message about how my idea is brilliant, then microwave a nice Hot Pocket, but it has to be pizza flavored.

  • 02.01.2005 5:43 AM PDT
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I'm going to chime in with what several others have said.

The best way to deal with insults is to go along with them and exagerate them. If some one calls you a retard start acting like one. If some one calls you -blam!-, say that you are and how much you want to do dirty things to the bully (use your imagination). This one is particullary effective as it usually horrifies them.

Be like water. Water is soft and just flows around stuff, but it is also one of the most powerful substances in the world (see Grand Canyon and recent Tsunami).

As for physical threats calmly and quitely defend your self. Never attack as this will make you the bad guy. And don't rely on friends or relatives to defend you. This will only make you appear weaker and feed into greater bullying.

Good luck with your bully

  • 02.01.2005 12:08 PM PDT
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do what i did and keep bottleing up the anger untill you snap, and wen you snap you dont think, so start punching and if he punches you back u will only get more pissed off and wont feel the pain. then when hes bleeding on the ground, kick him intimadate him, and the naxt day rub it in his face. he will never talk to you again.

  • 02.01.2005 12:30 PM PDT
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if they make fun of you, just say "ah ha ha ha ha ha" in a sarcastic way, that should help.

  • 02.01.2005 12:34 PM PDT
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i tried your suggestion once, not only did it get me in huge trouble, but it also didnt stop him, the next day he started stealing money right out of my pocket when im not looking. it really annoys me.

  • 02.01.2005 12:36 PM PDT
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Think of some large words (or better yet, make some up) and ramble on about his mother and have your friend laugh hysterically (did I spell that right?). This should confuse him even more than he already is. I mean, let's face it. If he doesn't think Halo is the awesomest game ever, he must have cerebral palsy or something...

  • 02.01.2005 12:44 PM PDT
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I get bullied by this it idiot at scholl but if you just play along it becomes more fun than anything else. And if that doesn't work just get a hitman on him. Or scale that down a bit about the hitman.

  • 02.01.2005 1:16 PM PDT
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Do not look vulnerable. Do not hug your books close as if to protect yourself when you go to your locker or to study hall or math or whatever class. Walk down the hall looking straight, do not look down, and keep your shoulders high. And walking with friends helps, as there is safety in numbers.

I know exactly how you feel, I am a hardcore nerd and show it by wearing Halo 2 and Mario shirts and by wearing a Star Wars hat every day. I have beaten EVERY bully to screw with me without throwing a punch. Make witty comebacks and use large, confusing, difficult - to - spell words.

If anyone says anything to me, I laugh really loud and start yelling how funny and brilliant they are. When everyone comes to see what the hell is going on, he/she will most likely become nervous and probably leave. But always be proud of your love for the best invention ever, or else you will be like dirt and get walked over.

I don't know if it helped, but that's pretty much all the advice I can give to you.

[Edited on 2/1/2005 2:02:07 PM]

  • 02.01.2005 2:01 PM PDT
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Just act like they have no effect on you and theyll leave you alone. ( JUJITSU IS SUPPIEOR TO ANY FORM OF KOMBAT F00L!)

  • 02.01.2005 2:50 PM PDT