- Reiginko
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Posted by: Johnrap
Posted by: Reiginko
Reply to them that it is considered rude to send unsolicited messages, and explain to them that you've blocked them. Chances are it won't have any effect (most rude people are always going to be rude, no matter what you say), but there's the possibility that you might just get through to them so they don't do it again to other people.
How is sending an invite rude? If anything it's polite.
In high school and college I was often depressed that I never got invited to parties. I would've done anything to get an invite. But it just never happened for me. Now, I'm in a Bungie.net group, and I invite people. But I don't think I'm spamming or being rude. My invites are also personal. They always reference where I've seen the person and why I think they'd enjoy the group.
And I do expect people to appreciate getting the invite. I know that I was overjoyed the day I got an invite from Mjolnir Battle Tactics. I'm still waiting for my invite to ODST Recon. I've yet to get one. I'm not sure if they've stopped recruting or what. But, maybe I'm just not one of the 1,500 most popular people on Bungie.net. Which is perfectly understandable. I do somewhat have the reputation of a spammer.
I personally thinkg it is ridiculous that someone is complaining that they get too many group invites. To borrow from Adam Corrola, this is like the guy who calls Loveline to complain that his -blam!- is too big and he can't ride a bicycle. It's just a way of bragging, while trying not to look too obvious about it.
Getting invites is not rude. A lot of people would love to get invites. I think the people complaining about getting too many invites are really saying, "Look at me! I'm so popular that I constantly get invited to groups."
That's a nice analogy, but it's more or less basically flawed. You can join a group without receiving an invite, unlike a closed party. If you want to join a certain group, go to the group's home page and click "Join this group". If they decide you're worthy to join, they will let you, if they don't and it's not an open membership, well that's the way the jelly rolls.
None of the closed-membership groups I've been heavily involved in have only accepted people who've been invited to join. They may have certain requirements to join, but they're not going to spam up the inboxes of everybody they come across who fit those requirements. For example, you can't join the Myth Jumpers unless you own a copy of Myth, but we don't invite people to join. Likewise, for a period of time I closed membership of Body Politic to prevent members of a certain other group which was involved in an attempt to unethically influence the outcome of our first election from joining, but I certainly didn't message everybody on the forums who wasn't a member of that group.
If there's a chapter in the seventh column you'd like to join, click on the join link! If they knock you back based on some unreasonable rationale, they're a bunch of elitist jerks, and generally those chapters are -blam!- uncool. I mean, don't get offended if your membership request is denied by a chapter which consists exclusively of a group of close friends from a small area who use the column to organise their LANs, but seriously man, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Stop being so gosh-darn insecure!