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Subject: My family is calling me "heartless".

“I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep. And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare, like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved. I woke up into a nightmare.”

My great grandmother died, I didn't frown or cry, in fact all I said was okay, and continued to hang out with my fiance and friends. Apparently that makes me heartless and inconsiderate even though I tried explaining to everyone that she was never nice to me when she was alive and it doesn't affect me now that she's dead.

They don't care and are still -blam!-ing.

What do I say for them to stfu? And am I wrong?

  • 11.27.2012 3:43 PM PDT

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I would continue about my business.

  • 11.27.2012 3:44 PM PDT

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You're just honest.

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If you didn't have a close relationship with the deceased, there's really no reason for you to try to fake sadness. Realize, however, that those who were close to her may be offended by your seeming indifference. Perhaps you should have been more sympathetic to those who were more personally affected.

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Yes. Regardless of how she treated you, she was still family.

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Posted by: elites rock
My great grandmother died, I didn't frown or cry, in fact all I said was okay, and continued to hang out with my fiance and friends. Apparently that makes me heartless and inconsiderate even though I tried explaining to everyone that she was never nice to me when she was alive and it doesn't affect me now that she's dead.

They don't care and are still -blam!-ing.

What do I say for them to stfu? And am I wrong?

nope. not wrong at all, honestly if that happened to one of my family members that was nice i would still share the same reaction.

  • 11.27.2012 3:44 PM PDT

Just ignore them, issues like these tend to GTFO on their own.

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If I don't believe in him...



why should he believe in me?

How could you be so Doctor Evil?

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Mine do that to me a lot. Though it's probably because I haven't displayed sadness to them at any family or pet deaths.

  • 11.27.2012 3:46 PM PDT
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Posted by: Locke357
If you didn't have a close relationship with the deceased, there's really no reason for you to try to fake sadness. Realize, however, that those who were close to her may be offended by your seeming indifference. Perhaps you should have been more sympathetic to those who were more personally affected.

  • 11.27.2012 3:47 PM PDT

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I think you should be a little more concerned, but I think that your family may have gone a little far. I mean if she really was so unkind that you weren't even phased on her passing, I think they should cut you some slack.

  • 11.27.2012 3:47 PM PDT

“I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep. And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare, like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved. I woke up into a nightmare.”


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Are you a ginger by any chance?

Why, yes I am

In all seriousness no. Why does that even matter?

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Posted by: elites rock
My great grandmother died, I didn't frown or cry, in fact all I said was okay, and continued to hang out with my fiance and friends. Apparently that makes me heartless and inconsiderate even though I tried explaining to everyone that she was never nice to me when she was alive and it doesn't affect me now that she's dead.

They don't care and are still -blam!-ing.

What do I say for them to stfu? And am I wrong?


Do you feel any remorse at all?

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Posted by: elites rock

Posted by: Ryle Cytarai
Are you a ginger by any chance?

Why, yes I am

In all seriousness no. Why does that even matter?

Gingers have no soul.

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Not sure what to say, I can't condemn you to either side.

If you really felt indifferent, then alright I guess.

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Really there is nothing you say to them they have already made up their mind that you are wrong. Personally I don't see anything wrong with your actions because I have a grandmother that is similar to that where if she died the only one in my family to cry would probably be my dad. Then when my grandfather nobody in my family really cried except my mom. Does that me we disliked my grandfather? Not at all we just new he was suffering and it was his time to go. For the most part what I am saying is people express loss in different ways. Blaming you for being "heartless" might be how they are coping with their loss.

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Butter my ass, turn around, spread open my butt cheeks, and say "Right here mutha-blam!-a!!"

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Are you a ginger by any chance?

Why, yes I am
In all seriousness no. Why does that even matter?
It's a soul joke.

  • 11.27.2012 3:48 PM PDT

“I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep. And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare, like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved. I woke up into a nightmare.”


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Posted by: elites rock
My great grandmother died, I didn't frown or cry, in fact all I said was okay, and continued to hang out with my fiance and friends. Apparently that makes me heartless and inconsiderate even though I tried explaining to everyone that she was never nice to me when she was alive and it doesn't affect me now that she's dead.

They don't care and are still -blam!-ing.

What do I say for them to stfu? And am I wrong?


Do you feel any remorse at all?

Nope, and to make it better, they are sending family that is visiting for the funeral to stay by my apartment.



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Tell them that she was never close to you, so te relationship between you died a while ago. So when she actually died, it Didn't have as much of an effect. Then follow up by saying if they can't except that, THEY are the heartless ones.

  • 11.27.2012 3:50 PM PDT

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They are obviously upset, so you could use a little something called empathy, and at least pretend to care that someone they loved is dead.

  • 11.27.2012 3:52 PM PDT

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You're not wrong, if you didn't have a close relationship, you didn't have a close relationship. There's really nothing to say that will change the opinion, just don't let it get to you I guess.

  • 11.27.2012 3:52 PM PDT

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Posted by: Garem
Yes. Regardless of how she treated you, she was still family.


There are just some family members who don't deserve feigned sympathy. One of my Grandfathers is a prime example.

  • 11.27.2012 3:53 PM PDT

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