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Subject: I think I just lost my bestfriend...

Flood, I honestly don't know what to do. So, this girl is my bestfriend, and we've been bestfriends for months and I've been there for her so much. More than half of my summer nights after midnight were spent Facetiming her until she fell asleep because she was always bawling herself to sleep cause of her boyfriend and family. Well, recently her boyfriend problems have gotten worse and I've been there listening and helping, trying to make things better.


Last night, we hung out and I was joking around and said "Your boyfriend treats you like a b, so that makes you one." And I mentioned stuff infront of people like how he treats her bad. Well, she ignored me most of the time and later I went up to her and was like "What's your problem?" She looked away and ignored me. My friend walked up to her and was like "He's done so much -blam!- for you, why are you doing this?" And she said it was because I called her a -blam!-, jokingly. We joke all the time.


Well, and her twitter, she said "I really can't trust anyone and I have no one." I texted her and apologized and she said she needs time.


I've been there so many -blam!- times for her and I mess up one time and she's ready to give up. She complains and her boyfriend makes her cry herself to sleep almost every night, but once I say something negative about him in public, she's done. Flood, I don't know what to do. Do I try to keep this friendship, or let it go and get a new bestfriend?


  • 11.28.2012 9:25 AM PDT

women...

We are a confusing breed.

Just be patient OP. Give her some time to cool off. She may come around.

  • 11.28.2012 9:26 AM PDT


Posted by: A Pimpin Lady
women...

We are a confusing breed.

Just be patient OP. Give her some time to cool off. She may come around.
I hope, I talked to her friend and she said "You two always come back to eachother." So I guess... Just wait...

  • 11.28.2012 9:27 AM PDT

Posted by: iamironman4611
"Hello, I am Ring Moniter 666 John Cena".

I've dealt with situations like this before. Just give her her time and space, and be there for her when she's over it.

  • 11.28.2012 9:27 AM PDT

If she can't take the joke, then she is either attention seeking or not your bestfriend.

[Edited on 11.28.2012 9:28 AM PST]

  • 11.28.2012 9:27 AM PDT
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Your 'beliefs' mean less than dick to me.

Start seeing other women.

  • 11.28.2012 9:27 AM PDT

Now let's get down to business, I don't got no time to play around, what is this?

Keep at it, but a word of advice, don't get involved in other people's relationships. Comfort her or whatever if her boyfriend is a dick, but nothing more. Only she knows what their relationship is truly like.

  • 11.28.2012 9:28 AM PDT

Keep the friendship. Just don't do it again. If you leave now A) You will look like a -blam. B) Sounds like shes near the edge. With out anyone to help her she may jump.

  • 11.28.2012 9:28 AM PDT


Posted by: A Pimpin Lady
women...

We are a confusing breed.

Just be patient OP. Give her some time to cool off. She may come around.



The female species.. such an enigma!

I've been in the situation OP, just don't think twice or stress. Patience is the key

  • 11.28.2012 9:28 AM PDT

Tell her you love 5-ever (dat mean u luv moar dan 4evr)

  • 11.28.2012 9:28 AM PDT
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It genuinely bothers me OP can't see he is being used as a doormat.

  • 11.28.2012 9:29 AM PDT

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Posted by: Decieved Soul
Last night, we hung out and I was joking around and said "Your boyfriend treats you like a b, so that makes you one."




Um yeah, that probably wasn't the best thing to do at the time. Just give her some time.

  • 11.28.2012 9:30 AM PDT
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Inappropriate. Went a little to far with the butt hole tearing.

She is just contemplating that truth bomb you dropped on her.

I would not have even apologized.

  • 11.28.2012 9:30 AM PDT

Maybe it wasn't just what you said, maybe her judgement is off because of how she is feeling. I'm sure she'll realise she overreacted and come back to you :)

  • 11.28.2012 9:30 AM PDT


Posted by: A Good Troll
It genuinely bothers me OP can't see he is being used as a doormat.


And that he is in love...with his best friend.

  • 11.28.2012 9:31 AM PDT

I like to play Reach for fun. I hate MLG, campers, armor lock, and team killers because they ruin that fun. Deal with it.

Tell her to break up with him? If a boyfriend makes you cry yourself to sleep, he's not a good boyfriend.

  • 11.28.2012 9:32 AM PDT

"Moooooooo"
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If you truly care about her, give her the space she needs, then be sure to see her through her troubles.



This has been Floodian Love Advice, we will see you in 2 weeks time when you post a thread about being "friendzoned".

  • 11.28.2012 9:37 AM PDT

Time flies like an arrow; fruits flies like a banana.

It's your own fault for saying something so tactless. If you want to talk to her about her boyfriend, don't do it in public, don't do it while cracking jokes and don't call her a -blam!- simultaneously.

  • 11.28.2012 9:37 AM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Serious... serious reply here.

Listen up.




If you can't take the heat, get off of the back burner!!!

  • 11.28.2012 9:40 AM PDT

"Wake me...when you need me."

OP is in the "friendzone".

  • 11.28.2012 9:42 AM PDT

I don't see you doing anything to help our country.
Except sitting at home, naked, eating twinkies, rubbing your hands together going "Heh. Target Destroyed. Mission Accomplished." Oh wait. that's not helping.

Move on, trust me. You should not have to deal with that kind of thing. It is best to stay away from girls in a relationship unless it is with you. It's an unpredictable situation, especially if the boyfriend gets jealous. I've had quite a few situations similar to this. Just walk now, it's hard, but you need to.

As a side note, this friend called me out to her much the way you did. The reasons are unimportant, what isn't is that when he called me out she went ham on him. Girlfriends will do anything to defend the guy they are dating, best to step back and wait for her to apologize. If you guys are close I'm sure she will soon enough.

  • 11.28.2012 9:46 AM PDT
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I think she thinks you are really insensitive, yes.

Some things are better left unjoked about mkay?

  • 11.28.2012 9:46 AM PDT

What goes around comes around.

  • 11.28.2012 9:47 AM PDT