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Subject: 111 Tips To Being Confident


Posted by: kikashi hatake
Drink alcohol


Alcohol doesn't give you confidence, it just impairs your cognitive functions enough that you don't think about the things that stop you being confident.

But whenever I see someone I know isn't confident normally get drunk and start acting out, I don't think 'wow, this guy's become confident with alcohol.' Usually because they go nuts after coming out of their shy shell, and end up looking like an idiot.

I always make sure I'm one of the last ones to be drunk at a party, and I never drink so much that I'm wasted - I spend most of the night sober and tipsy, and just be myself even if everyone else is hammered. It's the best way, because they're still going to be very social and open and you don't make a fool of yourself.

[Edited on 11.28.2012 2:55 PM PST]

  • 11.28.2012 2:53 PM PDT

I don't see you doing anything to help our country.
Except sitting at home, naked, eating twinkies, rubbing your hands together going "Heh. Target Destroyed. Mission Accomplished." Oh wait. that's not helping.

Posted by: ScottishSniper
Don't let those around you make you.

You only get one shot, don't miss your chance to blow, this opportunity comes once in a lifetime - eminem
While I agree there is a fine line between being unique and just being weird. You don't want to be on that weird line.

Posted by: theGUNdoctor
i asked a girl out today and she said yes. now what. we're going out for a drink next week together. i'm nervous because i don't know her too well, i've spoken to her quite a bit in college, but that was just when our "group" of friends are hanging around together. what i mean is its never been truly one to one. ah well im feeling a lot better now than i was this morning, the fear of rejection was really getting to me...
Congratulations! When you're on the date just take it easy, be you, but be definitive. She said yes, so obviously she has some interest in you, you'll be fine.

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Posted by: Black Eagle X99

25. Have that sexy smile, not your normal smile. Girls love a good sexy half smile, but don't make it creepy. Practice in a mirror.
26. Smile when talking to a girl, especially if she seems interested. Never make the smile creepy. Once again, mirror practice.

So i can't do this smile?
That smile screams to me "I'm Commander Shepard and you should come get some candy from my face!"....yes.

Posted by: uncle w0p
I tried tip #18, but my nose is stuffed up :(
It works, and you should most likely be fine regardless if your tongue is pink. If it isn't well then you need to clean that sucker off, which if you haven't done in a while/ever can be a pain in the ass.

  • 11.28.2012 4:02 PM PDT

I'm your biggest fan!


Posted by: Black Eagle X99

Posted by: RECON828
Posts like that are so ridiculous. You don't need to do all that stuff to get a girl. As long as you keep clean and well groomed, someone somewhere out there would go for you. It's just mostly a matter of putting yourself out there.
So the countless girl threads aren't ridiculous, but a go to guide thread is? I openly state in the OP that not all of this should be followed, it's a take what you need sort of deal. If things are going great without help then good for you, but there are those who just feel like nothing is working. This has some great tips and tricks that definitely work.

No, they're ridiculous too. You're right, if you could follow all these tips you'd be a great candidate for women.

The reason I don't like them is that they make women look like some kind of unobtainable goddess which really doesn't help the kids in the target audience. It makes them feel they'll never be good enough, when really all they have to do is shave their facial hair, stop wearing baggy jeans and smile a little more often.

People who write these advice columns forget how much of a big step it looks like to someone with confidence issues to do all this stuff.

  • 11.28.2012 4:05 PM PDT

"What are we holding on to, Sam?"
"That there's some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for."

After some research, looks like there might be some truth to "girls walk beside someone they like, guys talk face to face." Now I have this hilarious mental image of a guy trying to get face to face while a girl constantly circles around him. Thanks for the laugh and interesting read, thread saved.

  • 11.28.2012 4:09 PM PDT

I don't see you doing anything to help our country.
Except sitting at home, naked, eating twinkies, rubbing your hands together going "Heh. Target Destroyed. Mission Accomplished." Oh wait. that's not helping.


Posted by: RECON828

Posted by: Black Eagle X99

Posted by: RECON828
Posts like that are so ridiculous. You don't need to do all that stuff to get a girl. As long as you keep clean and well groomed, someone somewhere out there would go for you. It's just mostly a matter of putting yourself out there.
So the countless girl threads aren't ridiculous, but a go to guide thread is? I openly state in the OP that not all of this should be followed, it's a take what you need sort of deal. If things are going great without help then good for you, but there are those who just feel like nothing is working. This has some great tips and tricks that definitely work.

No, they're ridiculous too. You're right, if you could follow all these tips you'd be a great candidate for women.

The reason I don't like them is that they make women look like some kind of unobtainable goddess which really doesn't help the kids in the target audience. It makes them feel they'll never be good enough, when really all they have to do is shave their facial hair, stop wearing baggy jeans and smile a little more often.

People who write these advice columns forget how much of a big step it looks like to someone with confidence issues to do all this stuff.
Guides like this are how I got from walking with my head tilted to the side to where I am now. It seems overwhelming sure, but I sure as hell don't follow all of this to the letter. If I need to, or the opportunity presents itself I always have an idea of how to handle it. I'm still not 100% confident, but things like this have helped me come a long way. Let that be another tip, everything takes time, and also not every can workout the same.

This is a real big side note, but it will help a lot of you. There are some people who just can't drop weight by lifting, some who can't running, some who can't swimming etc. You need to find out what works for you. I have pretty bad knees so running is usually out of the question, and swimming isn't happening in the winter. I then started doing pullups and have literally shed and excess weight I had. I look and feel so much better than I ever have before. So don't push off doing anything, and don't be lazy, just find what does work for you. It will take time, usually a few weeks, but you will see the results and the pay off.

  • 11.28.2012 4:11 PM PDT

Quick as a razor, sharp as a bullet.

Why am I actually thinking about some of these things? I need to get back out there.

  • 11.28.2012 4:11 PM PDT

I don't see you doing anything to help our country.
Except sitting at home, naked, eating twinkies, rubbing your hands together going "Heh. Target Destroyed. Mission Accomplished." Oh wait. that's not helping.

Posted by: swvjdirector
After some research, looks like there might be some truth to "girls walk beside someone they like, guys talk face to face." Now I have this hilarious mental image of a guy trying to get face to face while a girl constantly circles around him. Thanks for the laugh and interesting read, thread saved.
Interesting, I had no doubts in it, but glad you could confirm regardless. Also glad to give you the laugh, thank you for that mental image as well.

Posted by: Tartan 118
Why am I actually thinking about some of these things? I need to get back out there.
It's your brains way of saying go get some. So go get some.

  • 11.28.2012 4:15 PM PDT

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