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Subject: When is it okay to move in with your partner?

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This recently came up between my lady friend and I, and a couple other friends. We started discussing when would it be too soon for a couple to live together. Is it based off of a specific amount of time, or a series of events? Is it not really something that is the same for every couple?


So, what are your thoughts Flood?

[Edited on 11.29.2012 6:05 PM PST]

  • 11.29.2012 6:04 PM PDT

''Hell is other people.''

It's probably not best to move in with her about a week after you've dated her. And in my honest opinion, you probably shouldn't move in with her. From what I've heard, the worst thing you can do for a relationship is move in with your partner if you're not married to them already. After all, "Familiarity breeds contempt".

  • 11.29.2012 6:06 PM PDT

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What society seems to show in popular media is that you should both have stable a income/career, a consistent sense of responsibility, and have plans to progress your relationship into long-term (i.e. engaged or thinking about it). If any 3 are missing you will both regret it after several months.

Waiting till marriage would be better (though the number of people doing that these days seems to be diminishing) but it really depends.

[Edited on 11.29.2012 6:12 PM PST]

  • 11.29.2012 6:06 PM PDT

Posted by: Yamadog27
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Whenever you're married.

  • 11.29.2012 6:08 PM PDT

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Posted by: edableshoe
Is it not really something that is the same for every couple?


Obviously it depends on the people.

Some people 'click' right away and end up getting married within a few weeks, or moving in right away.

For others, they go out with the same person for 5 years and still aren't sure.

...and it's all good.

[Edited on 11.29.2012 6:09 PM PST]

  • 11.29.2012 6:08 PM PDT

I don't know, but our plan is this:

-Finish college (in 2 years for her, 3 for me)
-Find a stable job
-Buy a house and car
-Move in

We're obviously taking care of not having any accidents along the way that might screw up our plans (getting a baby).

  • 11.29.2012 6:10 PM PDT

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Posted by: l Wersonian l
We're obviously taking care of not having any accidents along the way that might screw up our plans (getting a baby).
HA yes this is something of a reoccurring concern. I'm extremely careful, she's on the pill though, which makes her horny almost all the time.

  • 11.29.2012 6:14 PM PDT
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Well, here we are. I guess that it was destined to come to this.

Depends on the couple and how soon they want (are willing) to make such a commitment.

Which reminds me of a tasteless joke that was told to me by a female friend who preferred dating other women.

Q: What does a woman (who prefers dating other women) pack for a first date?
A: A U-Haul.

She was trying to explain to me that in her experience, other women were VERY eager to get settled down.

  • 11.29.2012 6:16 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Of course it's not the same for every couple.

For us, it was a series of events. We moved in with one another fairly quickly, in fact, 1,500 miles away from my family.

Wouldn't change a thing.

  • 11.29.2012 6:17 PM PDT

Perpetual Ninja in training.

"If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe."

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Posted by: CamCamm
Wouldn't change a thing.
I miss playing with you guys!! So many fun times. :D




Also, in response to Recon, she has a point. All of the ladies at the discussion mentioned that living together would be fine before marriage, so long as the male was committed enough. They were more apt to have things settled than leave them up in the air for a longer period of time. (The example being that, while in college, the couple lives together at some point later in their education, and then graduates, followed by the marriage.)

  • 11.29.2012 6:21 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


zoobkillerninja <3

My fiancé and I have lived together for almost 3 years. He wanted to ask for my hand in marriage a long time ago but I told him, "once you've lived with me for 2 years, you'll know whether or not that is something you actually want to do".

He's cray.

  • 11.29.2012 6:24 PM PDT