- McNut117
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- Noble Heroic Member
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
Posted by: ROFLwaffle P13
Posted by: McNut117
My best friend is bawling his eyes out to me over Facebook about how he's so miserable and unconfident in everything that he does. Flustered with his state of mind and human nature itself.
I've done what I can, but nothing I can say could make him feel better. So now, in a gesture that will most likely amount to nothing, I ask the Flood - a hive of socially awkward teenagers - how does one go about building confidence?
I am immediately beginning to reget this decision.
You can't just 'open your eyes' and decide to be confident.
Confidence is a product of a mindset that can only be fully realized through your perception of yourself. You have to have reasons to be happy with, and proud of yourself, whatever they may be. Smiling and laughing can even harmlessly trick the brain into triggering the related emotions. Literally pretending to be somebody confident (doing things you think confident people do) will work you up to honest confidence with much less time and effort than you might think.
Seriously. Don't give up on your friend. Tell them what they need to hear. You can't get him to stop talking down to himself, so shut him up. Get serious, and remind him that you're friends, and seeing him talk himself down does not give you good feels. Tell him that whatever rut he thinks he's stuck in, he can get out, but not if he won't believe he can.
- Sincerely, the Flood.I showed this to my friend and he thought it was great advice. Thanks a lot.