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Subject: My parents just don't understand me.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

I apologize for the cliche and nonsensical title, but I figured it would grab your attention. If you're reading this, I'll assume I've succeeded.

Let's just cut to the chase - my parents are naturally highly social and athletic people. They have a large group of friends, and leave the me the household most days of the week.

I, by contrast, am their polar opposite. Like many others on the Flood, I am rather shy, avoidant, and introverted. I prefer a small, close group of friends and need much time alone to "recharge" so to speak.

Ever since I was born, sports have been forced upon me. You name it - I've played it. They've given into my constant protests, and at this point it's come down to curling, which I have reluctantly played for the past 5 years.

As I have reached the age of 15, they've given me an ultimatum. Either pick up more sports and come out of my shell, or get a job. As I mentioned before, I am highly anti-social and avoidant, and thus find it difficult to pick up either of these. Not to mention I'm undoubtedly unwilling. I definitely don't enjoy sports, and to be frank, I really don't want to grow up. Anone can admit life is hard, and getting a job and accepting that reality is the first step. It may seem naive, but this is how I feel.

There is a large amount of tension between the both of us, and I'm being pressured quickly into a decision, and be extension out of my "cave", as my parents would call it.

wat do flud?

  • 12.06.2012 5:31 PM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
Antagonizing me to build a false sense of worth is so damn cute.

Brighten your day with science.

Kill them in cold blood.

OT: Make an effort to tell them what you just told us.

[Edited on 12.06.2012 5:34 PM PST]

  • 12.06.2012 5:31 PM PDT
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I'm not so good with advice...Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?

Tell them this.

  • 12.06.2012 5:32 PM PDT

Please do not send me group invites.

I think they just want you to do...something. Sports, job; doesn't matter.

  • 12.06.2012 5:32 PM PDT

The black wind begins to blow... Okay... give me your best shot... If you're prepared for the void!


Posted by: Todge16801
Tell them this.

  • 12.06.2012 5:32 PM PDT

<(-_-)> Teh mokey is not amused

Say you're not ready to do either and if they don't like it then they'll have to kick you out.

Very few parents would go that far.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

"Life is constantly fleeting from your grasp even from the very day it's bestowed upon you, but the shadow of death is always there, waiting for its chance to take you away."

"Even though many may not think so, ignorance and innocence are one and the same. The only difference is that one sounds nicer."

"I once knew a man who spent his entire life contemplating where we go after our death....it's a shame he realized it a second too late to tell anyone."

My advice, go for the job if you really dislike sports. At least then you'll make some cash.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

"What are we holding on to, Sam?"
"That there's some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for."

Just tell them that being social isn't your personality. My parents understand that, and they're fine with it. Show them things you are good at and they'll appreciate who you are.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

"There's a very fine line between not listening, and not caring. I'd like to think that I walk that line every day."

If you're not good as sports you're just going to be a benchwarmer on a high school team, I'd think. Or you could go for something not so competitive, of sorts.

I think you should give being more social a try, but if it's just really not for you, then tell your parents to grow up and accept what isn't.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

I'd get a job. You'll work on being social and you'll earn money.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

Go for the job. At least you earn money.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT

I am Brosidon, King of the Brocean


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Posted by: Todge16801
Tell them this.

  • 12.06.2012 5:33 PM PDT
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Why don't you just do something like go out riding on a bike or fishing?

  • 12.06.2012 5:34 PM PDT

Don't do either. I'm not one to criticize, but if they try to force a style of socialization on you by giving you an equally crappy option, they're bad parents.

  • 12.06.2012 5:34 PM PDT
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Nobody cares about anyone else's opinion - be it mine, yours, or a cult of angry star wars nerds - when they are enjoying what they enjoy.

Zombine
Everyone cares about opinions, that's why we socialize on a forum with strangers.

Where's Will Smith when you need him?

  • 12.06.2012 5:35 PM PDT

Please do not send me group invites.


Posted by: car15
Where's DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince when you need him?

  • 12.06.2012 5:36 PM PDT

Are you kidding me OP?

  • 12.06.2012 5:37 PM PDT
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Nobody cares about anyone else's opinion - be it mine, yours, or a cult of angry star wars nerds - when they are enjoying what they enjoy.

Zombine
Everyone cares about opinions, that's why we socialize on a forum with strangers.


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Posted by: car15
Where are DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince when you need them?

  • 12.06.2012 5:37 PM PDT

Major props to my hommie Sheeef. He made Recon possible for me. Long time recovering emails and passwords. And it was his. lol.

It's because YOU don't understand THEM.

  • 12.06.2012 5:38 PM PDT

Get into weightlifting. It's expensive but if your parents are so forcing on you to do a sport, might as well do a sport that makes you look awesome

  • 12.06.2012 5:39 PM PDT
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Posted by: McNut117

Ever since I was born, sports have been forced upon me.

OP's birth date:
Mom: Aaaw what a beautiful healthy baby boy.
Dad: Look at him just sitting there. I signed him for football. He starts in 5 minutes.
Mom: Excellent. He does look rather lazy just sitting there.

  • 12.06.2012 5:41 PM PDT

grunts are capable of getting brained (headshoted) by marines and quick witty one liners. and they're funny to watch.

BORN LEADERS!

Try to explain to your parents how you honestly feel and try to reach a compromise.

If not, do fencing! It's a lot of fun and who doesn't like to stab people with swords?

  • 12.06.2012 5:42 PM PDT

Marine Corps.
Semper Fi.

Posted by: Wikked Navajoe
My problems [with Reach] are basically just full parties, mlg, and people who go out of their way not to get killed.

Your situation is actually quite common, OP. You have to understand that as your parents they are only wanting what is best for you. Being highly social themselves it may be difficult for them to understand someone who is not.

Having said that, they seem to have started to understand but are fearful of you becoming so shy to the point it becomes a problem. In their eyes, getting a job is a good way to go about that. It will help you ease into the professional world while at the same time sharpen your social skills.

If I were you, I'd go with the job but look for a job with minimal social interaction. Admittedly, this may be difficult at your age with most job openings for you being in the food industry.

Or you could compromise with them and instead of joining a sports team why not join some kind of club you are interested in at school? The goal for them seems to be you socializing.

Personally, I think you would enjoy a job once you start reaping the benefits of a pay check. Living with your parents has massive benefits one of which is the lack of a need to pay for really anything at all. You could spend the money on anything you want, really.

  • 12.06.2012 5:47 PM PDT


Posted by: Gaara444
Don't do either. I'm not one to criticize, but if they try to force a style of socialization on you by giving you an equally crappy option, they're bad parents.


No, they really aren't. Sports are healthy and they look good on college application letters or resumes. Getting a job earns you money (which teaches you how to use it) and it gives you skills that you'll need. Dealing with other people is something everyone has to do, and if you can do it well you'll be more successful.

I say get a job. Not every job requires you to be around people all the time. And there's money.

  • 12.06.2012 5:47 PM PDT

If you see this post in your topic I'm sorry to tell you but your topic is dying.

Get a job.

  • 12.06.2012 5:47 PM PDT