- Black Eagle X99
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- Intrepid Legendary Member
I don't see you doing anything to help our country.
Except sitting at home, naked, eating twinkies, rubbing your hands together going "Heh. Target Destroyed. Mission Accomplished." Oh wait. that's not helping.
We see it on here everyday; "Girl Help Plzz", "How Do I Build Confidence", "Why Do Girls Only Go For -blam!-s?", etc. Everyday people sit here and complain, and for what? You're not bettering yourself, there is no "magic" fix to all your problems. It's hard work, yet it's so worth it. So why do you keep putting off doing anything about it? Waiting until college? Or are you just waiting to "grow into yourself"?
If you answered yes to any of that, then congratulations, you at least recognize the problem. Before I begin I'm going to share a story with you Flood, a true one I assure you. You know that kid, the chubby one who isn't exactly fat, at least never enough that he is overweight. The kid who is always "semi-fit". Bad acne, jew fro, confidence issues, considered lazy, etc. Does this kid sound familiar? He does to me, because just last year he was me. So if I'm just like you why am I contriving some self help guide? Surely this must all be a load of crap. Well Flood, the key phrase in that was last year.
I was that kid. I never really cared, I had a girlfriend of course and drifted through school always doing relatively well. Then it hit me one day, I was embarrassed of myself. I couldn't take it anymore, so I set out to improve. Exercise was the first step of course. Lift all you want, if you don't get some abdominal or cardio work in it's useless for weight loss. Run, do pull up, sit ups, push ups, etc. There is a reason those exercises are still around. They work. So go ahead and diet or lift to your hearts content, if you're anything like me then it won't do a thing.
So you've decided to start exercising, great. It will be slow to change, accept that. Then, oh crap, my acne is getting awful from all this sweating! I have to stop, it's one or the other. Wrong again. Change pillow cases every night, wash your face twice a day, moisturize of course, and most importantly DON'T TOUCH YOUR FACE 4,000 TIMES A DAY. I guarantee as long as you do this you should be fine. Acne either comes from dirt, or from dry skin. You need to account for both. Find products that work, aka high ratings, use what works for you. I can't recommend specifics because everyone really has a different way their face reacts.
Okay, so you're getting in shape and your acne is clearing up. Next step in confidence. You look good at this point, I'm sure of it, so project that. Walk straight, but laid back, never look down, and more importantly move your damn arms. Talk to people, it's okay to be scared to talk to a crush, but otherwise what is keeping you? Exactly. So just make your new self known. Most importantly, learn to stay silent, watch your tongue always. You don't want to be a douche, so don't go insulting people. You don't want to be the bad kind of confident, better to appear vain than to sink down to that level. I know this is a tall order, but I did it. So why can't you?
You've done it. You're in shape, you look great, and you show that off. So the next step is grades, think for a minute. Who do you like better, the confident guy who pays attention in class, or the one who makes jokes about pot to the teacher? Really self explanatory. If people think you are smart they will respect you, so stop cruising through. You know your smart, you don't have to show off, just start acting like it. There will of course still be problems, things you want to take care of, I know I'm that way. So of course everything can't come at once. Just keep working, oh and most importantly, if you are EVER insulted or something along those lines just ignore it or make a joke of it. Whoever is doing it will not know how to react. Just don't fight back, you're only sinking to their level then.
Looking back Flood I was an awful kind of awkward back just last year. Now I am in very good shape, have barely any acne, and have the confidence to go along with it. I'm still me, just a much better version of me. Believe me if you will, but I lie to you not. So get off your butt and go fix yourself! Stop putting it of, because every time you do all you'll think about is how that annoying guy on the Flood who posts huge threads every day did it. Yeah, I'm sure that's a good motivator for many as well. I hope you all at least drew some insight from this. It is possible, so just go and do it. With that I leave you, comment and ask whatever questions you would like. I will be around.