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Subject: How do you deal with the death of a Facebook friend?

I think I'd just keep them on as friends and leave it at that.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:26 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:22 PM PDT

The same way I did with the death of dear ~BB. I kindly paid my respects and moved on. If the person is just an internet friend then I won't feel all that emotional since I didn't know him/her personally.

  • 12.10.2012 12:22 PM PDT


Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
facebook is so retarded, how people deal with a friends death on facebook is hnnngggg...I hope this is some kind of joke trying to make us look dumb by luring us into agreeing with you because you're a mod.


Are you retarded?

OT: It hasn't happened to anyone in MY friends list, but a couple years back someone in my year died from an unknown condition, and Facebook was a pretty sad place to go to with all the posts about the person and such. Some people were clearly hit hard by the news, judging by what I saw on people's statuses. I'd hate for it to happen to someone I knew well. :/

  • 12.10.2012 12:23 PM PDT

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i do basically what you do OP. post on their wall here and there. just a grieving thing i guess.

and i call you OP cause calling you by your name makes me sound like a suck-up.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:25 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:23 PM PDT
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Posted by: lime013
I thought a friend of yours died for a second. Good thing I read the body post.
Well, it was on my mind because a friend of mine from high school just died a few days ago after being struck by a car when crossing the street. I did the same thing I had done before -- left a respectful message on his wall and kept him as a friend. Then I saw this article that gives kind of a broader perspective about this phenomenon, and it made me curious as to people's viewpoints here.

  • 12.10.2012 12:23 PM PDT

Quick as a razor, sharp as a bullet.

I had a friend online who died last year. Didn't find out until several weeks later. I think of him often, but I'm too self-conscious to go and post on his wall all the time. His family does it often enough, and I feel like it would be invasive if I did it a lot. I should maybe wish him a merry Xmas soon, though.

  • 12.10.2012 12:23 PM PDT
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Posted by: x Foman123 x
Posted by: BC1096
Two good friends of mine died in a car crash. I didn't post anything, but met the family personally to express how I felt. Rather have personal than not
Completely agree, and I wasn't trying to say that Facebook is an appropriate alternative to personally meeting with the deceased's friends and family. You're right on that.

I just meant to ask how you normally deal with the online aspect of it.


Oh, also I wasn't trying to go on the offensive, I was just kinda talking.

Honestly their isn't really a definitive nice way to do it online, because you can't get the emotion across. I don't know how to properly explain it

  • 12.10.2012 12:23 PM PDT

I'm your biggest fan!

With all due respect, I see absolutely no reason to post on the wall of a dead person. It's fair enough if you want to keep the profile for memories or out of some form of respect, but the only people who are going to see any all all posts you put on the wall of a deceased are people who it's not relevant to.

Personally, I'd keep the profile but not add to it in any way, and just use it as a memory bank. If I really felt the need to tell them something, I'd visit their real grave or, if it wasn't important enough to warrant the journey, just send an inbox.

  • 12.10.2012 12:25 PM PDT

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It depends on how personally I know them.

  • 12.10.2012 12:27 PM PDT
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I'm such, and people who are my friends are such, that we'd probably want to delete and be deleted. Not a burgeoning respect for representations, do we have. Deletion'd be a sign of respect in itself. The tool has passed its usefulness. No nostalgia for the internet.

  • 12.10.2012 12:28 PM PDT

RIP Logan ~B.B.

I don't delete the dead. I do much the same. Keep them on there, occasionally send a message.

However, it will really freak you out when one springs back to life on the internet. For example, BB's IM accounts got jacked by a pronz spambot. Was quite a shock to see him come online, then was quite angry when he messaged me telling me his name was Carla and I should check out his private cam.

  • 12.10.2012 12:28 PM PDT

(^}>

None of my friends have died yet (luckily) so I don't really know what I would do in this situation. Although one of my friends mother passed away after a long illness recently and everyone used her chilrens and husbands facebook pages to send messages of condolence to the family and that really helped them through a rough time, so I guess using facebook in these situations isn't all bad like some people are saying.

Also when I read 30 million Facebook accounts are connected to dead people, that sent a shiver down my spine for some reason. I wonder if there will come a time when the dead outnumber the living.

  • 12.10.2012 12:29 PM PDT


Posted by: x Foman123 x

I think if forgetting about somebody is the easiest way for you to get over the grief, that's probably a good solution, but not necessarily for everybody.


not necessarily forget the person, i just don't want to be reminded that they're dead, ya' know?

  • 12.10.2012 12:30 PM PDT
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Hey, guys, what's going on in this thread?
Someone tell Kivell that he is a lie.


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Sounds like I do the same as you Fo.

  • 12.10.2012 12:30 PM PDT

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Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
facebook is so retarded, how people deal with a friends death on facebook is hnnngggg...I hope this is some kind of joke trying to make us look dumb by luring us into agreeing with you because you're a mod.


Are you retarded?

OT: It hasn't happened to anyone in MY friends list, but a couple years back someone in my year died from an unknown condition, and Facebook was a pretty sad place to go to with all the posts about the person and such. Some people were clearly hit hard by the news, judging by what I saw on people's statuses. I'd hate for it to happen to someone I knew well. :/



Current status: sad cuz billy died *sigh*

Seriously, noone else sees setting up a internet memorial to a site designed to garner attention for yourself as stupid? Sure you can look at old pictures but its a social site and you're making a memorial out for someone, on a social internet site.

  • 12.10.2012 12:30 PM PDT

Do everyone a favor, get some intelligence, grow a set, bust a nut, and shut the fu­ck up.
Posted by: Anto91
you're retared for not knowing inside jokes
retard

I have a friend that is going through the final throes of cancer, its kinda hard to even talk about as she attempts to fulfill her bucket list. I will only say something when i see her face to face, i think it would be lame to say good bye on facebook to be honest.

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  • 12.10.2012 12:30 PM PDT


Posted by: EuAn1196
I wonder if there will come a time when the dead outnumber the living.


...really, because that's the way the ratio always leans.

the number of dead people is always increasing. the living has the potential to both increase and decrease.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:33 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:32 PM PDT

I think it would be too hard to keep them. I would just write a goodbye message and delete them.

  • 12.10.2012 12:32 PM PDT

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I know of none who have died.

  • 12.10.2012 12:32 PM PDT

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A couple of my Facebook friends have died. I haven't posted anything on their walls besides comments telling the family I'm there for them. I can only hope my family deletes my profile though. I'd rather not have my family hurt by people trolling the memorial.

  • 12.10.2012 12:35 PM PDT

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It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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I can only hope my family deletes my profile though. I'd rather not have my family hurt by people trolling the memorial.
Can't say I have anyone on my friend's list, to my knowledge, who would intentionally troll my profile after I've died.

That's awful.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:36 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:36 PM PDT

(^}>

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Posted by: EuAn1196
I wonder if there will come a time when the dead outnumber the living.


...really, because that's the way the ratio always leans.

the number of dead people is always increasing. the living has the potential to both increas and decrease.
I mean that maybe facebook will shut down before that number is reached, which seems unlikely to be honest. It makes you think just how long facebook will continue to be popular, imagine if in the future instead of digging up ancient artifacts and human remains historians could just look at a facebook page to find out what life was like thousands of years ago...

  • 12.10.2012 12:36 PM PDT
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Posted by: DEATHPIMP72
Anyone but Foman. He smells like cheese.

Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
Current status: sad cuz billy died *sigh*

Seriously, noone else sees setting up a internet memorial to a site designed to garner attention for yourself as stupid? Sure you can look at old pictures but its a social site and you're making a memorial out for someone, on a social internet site.
Maybe your experience has been different than mine. I've never seen anybody use a dead friend's profile to garner attention for themselves. I do not gain any extra friends or attention from posting a "goodbye" message on someone else's wall.

In all honesty, your vitriolic reaction here is making me think that there is a specific situation that really angered you. What happened?

  • 12.10.2012 12:37 PM PDT

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Posted by: CamCamm
Posted by: Hellfire RLH
I can only hope my family deletes my profile though. I'd rather not have my family hurt by people trolling the memorial.
Can't say I have anyone on my friend's list, to my knowledge, who would intentionally troll my profile after I've died.

That's awful.
No, no. I meant strangers. I haven't used my Facebook profile in probably a year, but I think it can be viewed by anybody.

  • 12.10.2012 12:41 PM PDT

Who am I?

mah twitter

I don't know, Facebook isn't really that important to me. I wouldn't remove a friend though if he/she happened to die, just let it be until someone deletes the account.

  • 12.10.2012 12:41 PM PDT

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