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Subject: How do you deal with the death of a Facebook friend?

Gamertag: AC Mobius

RIP Derek Farley

I have a few friends on Facebook that has died. Two I went to high school with, and one that worked with my dad and died in Iraq, who I was quite close to. I plan on keeping them on my friends list for as long as possible. My friend who died in Iraq has an Xbox Live account that I am friends with, as well. Losing him was hard, as we went to his memorial service and personally met his family.

Edit: I post on their walls on their birthday and for the holidays.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:42 PM PDT

"I will show you how a true Prussian officer fights!"

"And i will show you where the iron crosses grow..."

- "Cross of Iron"

So far the people who have died near me who i knew or went to my school have there facebook pages still up so people can post about them.

  • 12.10.2012 12:43 PM PDT

If you didn't Play Halo: CE or Halo 2 MP, your opinion about Halo means nada.

CE + H2 >>>>>>>>>>>>>> H3+Reach+H4

Some people leave wall posts, others make lengthy status' dedicated to them.

I don't have any problem with that, but I can't personally do that myself.

When I lost my Uncle suddenly last year the last thing on my mind was writing about it on social network sites. It would just feel awkward for me.

  • 12.10.2012 12:45 PM PDT

im a dumb, dont take me seriously prease.


Posted by: x Foman123 x
Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
Current status: sad cuz billy died *sigh*

Seriously, noone else sees setting up a internet memorial to a site designed to garner attention for yourself as stupid? Sure you can look at old pictures but its a social site and you're making a memorial out for someone, on a social internet site.
Maybe your experience has been different than mine. I've never seen anybody use a dead friend's profile to garner attention for themselves. I do not gain any extra friends or attention from posting a "goodbye" message on someone else's wall.

In all honesty, your vitriolic reaction here is making me think that there is a specific situation that really angered you. What happened?

Theres nothing thats really angered me, this has never happend to me and all my eggs are in order and everyone close to me is alive thankfully. What bothers me is attaching someones death to something like facebook can be sweet because you can look up pictures, but turning it into a memorial, come on. It makes it a game to some people. Statuses about how you feel bad about somebody, come on. Hold a real memorial for your family dont tie it to something like facebook that can be trolled and used by people who think of it as a game to get attention. It doesnt make sense. All of this hate might just come from a hate for facebook over all to be honest.

  • 12.10.2012 12:45 PM PDT

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There's no way Nate Hawbaker's favorite hero is Alan Stuart


ALAN IS A BEAUTIFUL MAN!

Wow, I never knew this happens so often. I am still a young'n, and haven't had to deal with the death of a facebook friend. My thoughts go out to your friends families, Foman.

  • 12.10.2012 12:46 PM PDT

Check out my youtube channel. http://www.youtube.com/user/ultratog1028

None of mine have died.

  • 12.10.2012 12:46 PM PDT

Hi I'm RT and I like to argue!

Pretty sure none of my Facebook friends have departed, but I'll likely do as you did -- post something simple and leave them on my list forever.

[Edited on 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PST]

  • 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PDT


Posted by: NICE fap fap fap

Posted by: x Foman123 x
Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
Current status: sad cuz billy died *sigh*

Seriously, noone else sees setting up a internet memorial to a site designed to garner attention for yourself as stupid? Sure you can look at old pictures but its a social site and you're making a memorial out for someone, on a social internet site.
Maybe your experience has been different than mine. I've never seen anybody use a dead friend's profile to garner attention for themselves. I do not gain any extra friends or attention from posting a "goodbye" message on someone else's wall.

In all honesty, your vitriolic reaction here is making me think that there is a specific situation that really angered you. What happened?

Theres nothing thats really angered me, this has never happend to me and all my eggs are in order and everyone close to me is alive thankfully. What bothers me is attaching someones death to something like facebook can be sweet because you can look up pictures, but turning it into a memorial, come on. It makes it a game to some people. Statuses about how you feel bad about somebody, come on. Hold a real memorial for your family dont tie it to something like facebook that can be trolled and used by people who think of it as a game to get attention. It doesnt make sense. All of this hate might just come from a hate for facebook over all to be honest.


Makes sense. If only you'd said that in your first post, rather than making a joke out of it.

  • 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PDT

The human element always mucks things up.

LOL UR BUDDIES DIED

  • 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PDT

I read this article yesterday. I was thinking of making a thread here, but I wasn't sure what to say.

I think that Facebook needs to add some sort of "digital will" feature. You leave instructions with Facebook about what you want done with your account when you die When Facebook receives news that you have passed, they release the information to whoever you specify and then that person can decide what to do.

I think the most interesting question this poses is: How long after someone dies is it appropriate to post news of their death on Facebook? I don't think I would want to find out that a family member or close friend passed through Facebook, but at the same time it seems just like an obituary in the newspaper.

  • 12.10.2012 12:47 PM PDT


Posted by: Egerspurge
LOL UR BUDDIES DIED


Learn to read...

  • 12.10.2012 12:48 PM PDT

For those who wish to contact me on Xbox LIVE, my main account is "The 7th Taco", and the one linked with my profile here is only a backup.

Don't currently have any friends on Facebook who have died (Thank God for that). I'm not really sure how I'd handle it, and I'm specifically thinking of a certain persons death who I just couldn't bring myself to write anything due to the fact that there's just too much to say.

If a friend of mine were to pass, I think I would rather go visit them at their grave or something. Probably write a letter and read it to them, then leave it there. A lot better than posting on Facebook where people can see. I'd want it to be personal, not have everyone look at it.

  • 12.10.2012 12:50 PM PDT


Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
What bothers me is attaching someones death to something like facebook can be sweet because you can look up pictures, but turning it into a memorial, come on. It makes it a game to some people. Statuses about how you feel bad about somebody, come on.


Why would posting a status on Facebook or a memorial on someone's page be a "game to some people"? Who are those people? If they really are the kind of person who would make someone's death "a game", why wouldn't they do that with or without Facebook?

Hold a real memorial for your family dont tie it to something like facebook that can be trolled and used by people who think of it as a game to get attention. It doesnt make sense.

Why can't you "hold a real memorial" and use Facebook at the same time? Can't anything be "trolled", or can't I think of any memorial as a game to get attention?

All of this hate might just come from a hate for facebook over all to be honest.

That's what it sounds like to me.

  • 12.10.2012 12:53 PM PDT

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Posted by: coolmike699
I think the most interesting question this poses is: How long after someone dies is it appropriate to post news of their death on Facebook? I don't think I would want to find out that a family member or close friend passed through Facebook, but at the same time it seems just like an obituary in the newspaper.
When my mom was sick and in the hospital, I tried to contact everyone I could by phone. Most people, I had no number for and some of those people were on my mother's friend's list on Facebook. Only a few took time to message me their phone numbers but my step-dad basically updated his own profile on a daily basis about the situation. It was convenient I suppose.

  • 12.10.2012 12:55 PM PDT

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Beacuse im a Big and an master! And my name is Erlingur (yeah strange name) Thats why i put the E on :D bigmaster
add me if you dare on xbox live.

I would go personally to the family, and tell them how i felt, and ask them if there is anything that i could do.

It really depends on how much i love the friend, if its just someone i talk with school, i will probaly feel sorry, and sad.

If its a familiy memeber, sister, brother, mom or dad. Well i dont want to think about that, matter but it would just try to delete their profile, no reason they are there if they are gone.

Close friends, i would do the same at the top, my best freind i would mourn for weeks, and go on. And i would give my sympathy and respect for his family, wich i got a good realtionship with .

  • 12.10.2012 1:00 PM PDT

im a dumb, dont take me seriously prease.


Posted by: coolmike699

Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
What bothers me is attaching someones death to something like facebook can be sweet because you can look up pictures, but turning it into a memorial, come on. It makes it a game to some people. Statuses about how you feel bad about somebody, come on.


Why would posting a status on Facebook or a memorial on someone's page be a "game to some people"? Who are those people? If they really are the kind of person who would make someone's death "a game", why wouldn't they do that with or without Facebook?

Hold a real memorial for your family dont tie it to something like facebook that can be trolled and used by people who think of it as a game to get attention. It doesnt make sense.

Why can't you "hold a real memorial" and use Facebook at the same time? Can't anything be "trolled", or can't I think of any memorial as a game to get attention?

All of this hate might just come from a hate for facebook over all to be honest.

That's what it sounds like to me.


I don't want to get into it, all of what you said does apply but I suspect people who think of it as a game are alot less likely to go to the actual memorial. Ill keep it simple, its a social internet site about sharing things about yourself and adding friends, dont make memorials for a loved one on there, you may not be able to see it, but its stupid.

  • 12.10.2012 1:01 PM PDT

Hi I'm RT and I like to argue!

Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
its a social internet site about sharing things about yourself and adding friends
To you.

To others, it has a little more significance than that, and that's totally fine, too.

  • 12.10.2012 1:14 PM PDT

I don't see the harm in keeping them there. I had a aunt who passed away almost a year ago now. I still keep her as "my aunt" listed on my Facebook profile.

As for posting on their wall, I rather send them private messages. I know they'll never read them, but it just helps to get some things out and I rather not post on their wall for everyone to see, it's more personal to me.

  • 12.10.2012 1:22 PM PDT
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Why delete them at all? It doesn't really affect you now that they're gone. No messages/status updates/etc. Keeping them reminds you of the friendship you had.

But then again, some people might not want a constant reminder that their friend's gone every time they scroll past the name.

  • 12.10.2012 1:23 PM PDT

I do not fear death, in view of the fact that I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it. ~ Mark Twain

Never really thought about this. Quite interesting. My response would depend on how close the friend is.

  • 12.10.2012 1:34 PM PDT

Please stop complaining about the 'death of a loved one' it's my job. They probably deserved it anyways. Here's a warning, if you keep making pentagrams out of the neighbors livestock I will personally come to your house and kill everyone you love. Now leave me alone, I got to get back to work.
~M.D~

I just make sarcastic comments to lightens the mood.

  • 12.10.2012 1:52 PM PDT

Halo 3


Posted by: RighteousTyrant
Posted by: NICE fap fap fap
its a social internet site about sharing things about yourself and adding friends
To you.

To others, it has a little more significance than that, and that's totally fine, too.


No, I think that sums up Facebook quite well.

  • 12.10.2012 1:53 PM PDT
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Death means nothing when talking about friendships. They last forever.

  • 12.10.2012 1:54 PM PDT

In all honesty I delete them. It's not like they are going to update their status and if other family members login under their profile and post random things it is really a fraud that evokes depressing feelings.

  • 12.10.2012 1:55 PM PDT

In memory of those fallen in the defense of Earth and her colonies.

March 3, 2553

I like the status and wonder if this means I show support, or like his death.

  • 12.10.2012 1:56 PM PDT

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