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Subject: Best friend stopped talking to me 2 weeks ago
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I'll try to keep this short. We've been friends since May. She's married and I'm ok with that. I've never tried to be more than friends and I don't ever plan to be more. Her husband deployed in October and we've practically been inseparable. We text and hangout from sunset to sundown. I basically lived at her house the whole month of November, that's how much time we spend together. We always have extremely deep and personal conversations and have basically told each other every personal secret we have. Then out of nowhere she stopped talking to me at all. She hasn't returned a single text of mine and rarely acknowledges me at work. I stopped texting her at all like a week ago because I don't want to seem clingy, but it's killing me inside. She's also having me house sit for her after she deploys next month because she says I'm the only person she trusts and knows well enough. We also have been planning to go to a concert this Friday (already bought tix and everything) for over a month, and when I asked her if she still wanted to go I couldn't get and answer.

Another factor is the fact that she's been hanging out/ talking with this dude she knows I hate. He openly asked me if her and I were hooking up in front of other people at work and openly tries to flirt/hit on her. I told her this and all she would say is that, "he's a cool dude". I'm certain nothing is going on because I know her well enough to judge her character and whether she would ever cheat on someone, and I highly doubt she is, but her being friends with him shouldn't mean that she has to shut me out completely, right?

She's easily one of the coolest people I've met and I don't want to lose her as a friend. I just don't know what to do. Should I just continue talking to her or confront her and ask wtf she's been so cold and distant.

So what should I do? and sorry for the immensely long read, I tried to make this as short as possible without leaving any key details.

  • 12.11.2012 12:14 PM PDT

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Posted by: Needler Rifle
I'll try to keep this short...


you failed

anyway try to talk to them if nothing happens try to find some new ones

[Edited on 12.11.2012 12:18 PM PST]

  • 12.11.2012 12:16 PM PDT

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Posted by: Needler Rifle
I'll try to keep this short...


you failed

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT
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  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT

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I think you should keep trying to be friends with her, even if she seems to be drifting away. Talk a lot, hang out etc.

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Seems WAY too complicated.

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT

Why are you going after someone that's married? There's your first problem right there..

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT

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Posted by: BuzzKill9009

Posted by: Needler Rifle
I'll try to keep this short...


you failed

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT
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Posted by: Statefarm98

Posted by: OdorousLicense3

Posted by: BuzzKill9009

Posted by: Needler Rifle
I'll try to keep this short...


you failed
Grow an attention span. We are not required to cater to ADHD here. If you can't read 3.5 paragraphs, go post in one of the one-sentence spam threads.

[Edited on 12.11.2012 12:19 PM PST]

  • 12.11.2012 12:17 PM PDT
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Foman is my favorite moderator. <3

To be completely honest, I've had plenty of close friends (male and female), and I've never felt "hurt" or "pained inside" if they haven't talked to me in a while or described not wanting to text them as "not wanting to be clingy".

To me, it seems like you may have some deeper feelings than you realize broski.

  • 12.11.2012 12:20 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Posted by: CurvedBubbles
Why are you going after someone that's married? There's your first problem right there..
He specifically said that he has no intentions on actually being with her. Nothing more than friends, however...

the fact that OP said "She's married and I'm okay with that." is almost worrisome.

  • 12.11.2012 12:21 PM PDT


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Posted by: Statefarm98

Posted by: OdorousLicense3

Posted by: BuzzKill9009

Posted by: Needler Rifle
I'll try to keep this short...


you failed
Grow an attention span. We are not required to cater to ADHD here. If you can't read 3.5 paragraphs, go post in one of the one-sentence spam threads.

Hey, Forman, that's like, not nice, and stuff. And to be fair, he did say something else, but the guy who quoted him cut it off.

  • 12.11.2012 12:22 PM PDT

The problem may be that she may think that you are trying to get to close to her and she might think your trying to start something with her. Or she just likes that other guy and is cheating in which case you should at least try to talk her out of it that crap can never end happily.

  • 12.11.2012 12:22 PM PDT
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Posted by: CurvedBubbles
Why are you going after someone that's married? There's your first problem right there..

I'm not and as stated, we're just friends and I'm cool with that. I would never interfere with another persons relationship and I don't ever plan to. Sounds sort of beta but when you grow up you realize you can't always get what you want.

  • 12.11.2012 12:22 PM PDT

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Posted by: Needler Rifle
We text and hangout from sunset to sundown.


lol wut

[Edited on 12.11.2012 12:24 PM PST]

  • 12.11.2012 12:23 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Posted by: Needler Rifle
I would never interfere with another persons relationship and I don't ever plan to. Sounds sort of beta but when you grow up you realize you can't always get what you want.
So her being married isn't a problem because he's deployed yet her wanting to get closer and spend more time with someone who isn't her husband or you, is not okay?

  • 12.11.2012 12:24 PM PDT

OP you had me intrigued. I say you confront her and show her that you really care about your friendship and how you dont want it to go down like this. The worst kind of ending a friendship is to fade away. Its just sad, it means youve lost interest in that person and no longer want anything to do with you or even care.

Its important to tell your friends what you feel. I have a very good friend i consider a brother. He lives across the country and still talk to him as if i see him everyday. I love him, i really do. And i would hate it if he were to do the same to me. I would totally confront him about it. It might be different for this situation since youre dealing with a girl. Women are different and handle friendships a lot more differently than guys.

The nicer thing that shell will remember is if you wait for her to say something and then open up and tell her how you felt mistreated. But you may be risking this one because time could kill the friendship, and she may never say anything.

[Edited on 12.11.2012 12:28 PM PST]

  • 12.11.2012 12:25 PM PDT
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Posted by: CamCamm
Posted by: Needler Rifle
I would never interfere with another persons relationship and I don't ever plan to. Sounds sort of beta but when you grow up you realize you can't always get what you want.
So her being married isn't a problem because he's deployed yet her wanting to get closer and spend more time with someone who isn't her husband or you, is not okay?

When did I even hint at that?

  • 12.11.2012 12:26 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


zoobkillerninja <3

Posted by: Needler Rifle
Posted by: CamCamm
Posted by: Needler Rifle
I would never interfere with another persons relationship and I don't ever plan to. Sounds sort of beta but when you grow up you realize you can't always get what you want.
So her being married isn't a problem because he's deployed yet her wanting to get closer and spend more time with someone who isn't her husband or you, is not okay?
When did I even hint at that?
Just trying to understand a little better.
:)

I don't understand why you can't just ask her what's up.

  • 12.11.2012 12:28 PM PDT

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It's a tough position to be in, OP. I'd say just text her the day before the concert and tell her you need her to confirm whether she's going or not. If she doesn't get back to you, then that's that. Who knows what the reason is. I don't feel as if the other guy is to blame, but I could maybe be wrong. It seems like maybe something came up like an emergency or broken phone, etc. Hope it works out for you.

  • 12.11.2012 12:29 PM PDT
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Posted by: CamCamm
Posted by: Needler Rifle
Posted by: CamCamm
Posted by: Needler Rifle
I would never interfere with another persons relationship and I don't ever plan to. Sounds sort of beta but when you grow up you realize you can't always get what you want.
So her being married isn't a problem because he's deployed yet her wanting to get closer and spend more time with someone who isn't her husband or you, is not okay?
When did I even hint at that?
Just trying to understand a little better.
:)

I don't understand why you can't just ask her what's up.

I plan on it when I see her tomorrow. Just trying to get some understanding on what could possibly be going through her mind and the best way to come at her about it. Someone else has told me she may have deeper feelings for me than she can handle and is trying to distance herself. Either way it sucks not knowing for now.

  • 12.11.2012 12:31 PM PDT

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Maybe you should stop attempting to contact her and if she doesn`t try to contact you back then she just doesn`t want to see you anymore. Might even be that she was working up to being more than friends with you whilst her husband was away and instead this guy proved to be more `forthcoming`

  • 12.11.2012 12:31 PM PDT
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blarg.

Maybe it's because you're a Covenant weapon and she's jealous.

  • 12.11.2012 12:33 PM PDT

Posted by: The Kangol Kid
It was then that I decided he really is like semen(everywhere) and I gave up on life.


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Posted by: Needler Rifle
Someone else has told me she may have deeper feelings for me than she can handle and is trying to distance herself. Either way it sucks not knowing for now.
This could very, very well be. I'm sure her being married would make that harder to even discuss but it makes sense. If that were the case, I myself, wouldn't just start talking to another guy and hanging out with him more to... get over whatever feelings could be there between you and I.

I'm not this female so I don't know.
Hope you get some answers.

  • 12.11.2012 12:34 PM PDT
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Posted by: Dback139
It's a tough position to be in, OP. I'd say just text her the day before the concert and tell her you need her to confirm whether she's going or not. If she doesn't get back to you, then that's that. Who knows what the reason is. I don't feel as if the other guy is to blame, but I could maybe be wrong. It seems like maybe something came up like an emergency or broken phone, etc. Hope it works out for you.

Her phone def isn't broken, and it isn't just the fact that she won't respond to my texts. She also rarely speaks to me at work and we work along with each other. 12 hour shifts no less.

  • 12.11.2012 12:34 PM PDT

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