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Subject: Yet another girl thread. But this time...

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  • 12.12.2012 6:07 PM PDT

Rock bottom is no place to set up camp. Especially in the dark.


Posted by: Viper Skills

Posted by: Mister Donut
She makes me so happy, and I feel very content with her. But is it wrong of me to think of what else is out there for me to experience?

We're perfect for each other, and I don't know if I like it...


Are you trying to convince yourself that you're happy with her? There is nothing wrong with cuddling and watching movies. Why is it implied this is a bad thing?


That isn't what the problem is. Sorry for the wrong implications. The problem is, I have very strong feelings for her, but I don't know if I want both of us to be "done" relationship wise. It's becoming quite serious, and both of us already act like an elderly couple, as weird as that sounds. We were pretty much made for each other, to be honest. But at this point, there is nothing exciting going on. No struggles. I feel like it would be better for both of us to have more experience with others instead of being so content already...

  • 12.12.2012 6:08 PM PDT


Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: InvasionImminent

Posted by: mastesargent
*sigh*

How old is OP?

14.


16. I suppose you're going to say something stereotypical such as, "lol its hiz age group they dun no wut theyre doing!!!1!!1! xDD".

OP so naive

  • 12.12.2012 6:10 PM PDT

Rock bottom is no place to set up camp. Especially in the dark.


Posted by: Direct Control

Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: RedXRulez
I don't know. What do you want me to tell you? Dump her because she's exactly what you wanted?


Not exactly... I just wonder if any of you have been in a similar spot, or have any advice. She's perfect for me, and we're already settling down and stuff... In the time we've been together, I've never lied to her and she hasn't lied to me. Nor have we fought, even once. She's so perfect that I feel like it would be good for me to experience new things. But at the same time, she's just too amazing. :/

I've seen it from the other side. An old friend of mine was in a healthy, happy relationship for 10 months before she dumped him for the same reasons as you listed. She was bored and wanted to feel what something else felt like. They spent (with me involved in there too) all summer going back and forth. She ran around with a bunch of dudes and realized other relationships would never be as unique and came crying back. He, after months with her, immediately got with a rebound before dumping her after a month to get back with his ex.

You'll realize only after you've left your girlfriend how much you needed her. Hopefully she's as nice(and as much as a pushover) as my friend to let you back into her life.


You know, you're right... I didn't intend on breaking up with her though. I just wasn't sure of how I felt. I know that if I left her, I would miss her very much. I would look for a bit of her in everyone else I meet. To try to even think of ruining what we have makes me feel wrong...

  • 12.12.2012 6:11 PM PDT

"What are we holding on to, Sam?"
"That there's some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for."


Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: Viper Skills

Posted by: Mister Donut
She makes me so happy, and I feel very content with her. But is it wrong of me to think of what else is out there for me to experience?

We're perfect for each other, and I don't know if I like it...


Are you trying to convince yourself that you're happy with her? There is nothing wrong with cuddling and watching movies. Why is it implied this is a bad thing?


That isn't what the problem is. Sorry for the wrong implications. The problem is, I have very strong feelings for her, but I don't know if I want both of us to be "done" relationship wise. It's becoming quite serious, and both of us already act like an elderly couple, as weird as that sounds. We were pretty much made for each other, to be honest. But at this point, there is nothing exciting going on. No struggles. I feel like it would be better for both of us to have more experience with others instead of being so content already...


So, from what I'm reading, it sounds like you're experiencing "It can't be this easy" syndrome. I think it's natural to be hesitant to believe something really is that easy, but if things are working out well, then just be grateful for it.

Of course, this is all totally hypocritical coming from me, so take that with a grain of salt.

  • 12.12.2012 6:13 PM PDT

Marine Corps.
Semper Fi.

Posted by: Wikked Navajoe
My problems [with Reach] are basically just full parties, mlg, and people who go out of their way not to get killed.


Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: Viper Skills

Posted by: Mister Donut
She makes me so happy, and I feel very content with her. But is it wrong of me to think of what else is out there for me to experience?

We're perfect for each other, and I don't know if I like it...


Are you trying to convince yourself that you're happy with her? There is nothing wrong with cuddling and watching movies. Why is it implied this is a bad thing?


That isn't what the problem is. Sorry for the wrong implications. The problem is, I have very strong feelings for her, but I don't know if I want both of us to be "done" relationship wise. It's becoming quite serious, and both of us already act like an elderly couple, as weird as that sounds. We were pretty much made for each other, to be honest. But at this point, there is nothing exciting going on. No struggles. I feel like it would be better for both of us to have more experience with others instead of being so content already...


My advice to you will be helpful, then. I recently got engaged so serious relationships are right up my alley.

The relationship you are in is by no means a bad or "boring" one as you may fear it is. Acting like an old couple as you say is actually how relationships typically evolve. Why do people stay in them? Well, discounting the relationships which are held together by financial support, people stay in these relationships because they love the other person.

I'm not talking about lovey-dovey stuff. I'm talking about love. Unconditional, you're-in-the-wrong-but-I-love-you-anyway love. Does this girl mean a lot to you as a person? Is she part of your identity? There are many things you can do to spice your relationship up but just know that relationships naturally slow down after a while.

Many people mistake this to be a bad thing. However, it is your choice to let that fire die off completely. Can you talk to her about anything? Can you speak your mind without fear of being judged? If so, give this girl and your relationship more of a fighting chance. Don't defeat it right off the bat. I'm not saying you would regret breaking up with her (perhaps you would) but what I'm saying is that you don't want to throw something away because you were confused.

Take her out every now and then but do not be surprised when there are nights where you want to have sex and she doesn't want to and vice versa (that's not my business I don't know if you two are active but you get the point).

Definitely think way more about this. My vote would be to stay in the relationship but try to mix things up a little bit. Take her somewhere you would both enjoy and surprise her with something.

But if she wants to cuddle up and watch television that's totally okay. The chance to cuddle is enjoyable for me personally so I like it but I understand if you want something a little more.

But just know that if she likes it then you should do it. If you like something and she doesn't then that's something you can work through as well.

  • 12.12.2012 6:15 PM PDT

I am assuming direct control.


Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: Direct Control

Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: RedXRulez
I don't know. What do you want me to tell you? Dump her because she's exactly what you wanted?


Not exactly... I just wonder if any of you have been in a similar spot, or have any advice. She's perfect for me, and we're already settling down and stuff... In the time we've been together, I've never lied to her and she hasn't lied to me. Nor have we fought, even once. She's so perfect that I feel like it would be good for me to experience new things. But at the same time, she's just too amazing. :/

I've seen it from the other side. An old friend of mine was in a healthy, happy relationship for 10 months before she dumped him for the same reasons as you listed. She was bored and wanted to feel what something else felt like. They spent (with me involved in there too) all summer going back and forth. She ran around with a bunch of dudes and realized other relationships would never be as unique and came crying back. He, after months with her, immediately got with a rebound before dumping her after a month to get back with his ex.

You'll realize only after you've left your girlfriend how much you needed her. Hopefully she's as nice(and as much as a pushover) as my friend to let you back into her life.


You know, you're right... I didn't intend on breaking up with her though. I just wasn't sure of how I felt. I know that if I left her, I would miss her very much. I would look for a bit of her in everyone else I meet. To try to even think of ruining what we have makes me feel wrong...
My friend's girlfriend went through the same phase. Right around the 8 month mark she got weird. He would tell me about it, she didn't want to break up, she was just unsure of her feelings and what not. Eventually she kinda shunned him (Much to his emotional distress). One incident I remember is she would get rides from him but she suddenly decided to stop. Eventually it went away, but later when they broke up she said that the feelings never disappeared rather she was just covering them up.

It was not a fun experience. We, my friends and I, all made mistakes and it led to the fracturing of our group and I lost many friends throughout the ordeal.

  • 12.12.2012 6:20 PM PDT

Rock bottom is no place to set up camp. Especially in the dark.


Posted by: Viper Skills

Posted by: Mister Donut

Posted by: Viper Skills

Posted by: Mister Donut
She makes me so happy, and I feel very content with her. But is it wrong of me to think of what else is out there for me to experience?

We're perfect for each other, and I don't know if I like it...


Are you trying to convince yourself that you're happy with her? There is nothing wrong with cuddling and watching movies. Why is it implied this is a bad thing?


That isn't what the problem is. Sorry for the wrong implications. The problem is, I have very strong feelings for her, but I don't know if I want both of us to be "done" relationship wise. It's becoming quite serious, and both of us already act like an elderly couple, as weird as that sounds. We were pretty much made for each other, to be honest. But at this point, there is nothing exciting going on. No struggles. I feel like it would be better for both of us to have more experience with others instead of being so content already...


My advice to you will be helpful, then. I recently got engaged so serious relationships are right up my alley.

The relationship you are in is by no means a bad or "boring" one as you may fear it is. Acting like an old couple as you say is actually how relationships typically evolve. Why do people stay in them? Well, discounting the relationships which are held together by financial support, people stay in these relationships because they love the other person.

I'm not talking about lovey-dovey stuff. I'm talking about love. Unconditional, you're-in-the-wrong-but-I-love-you-anyway love. Does this girl mean a lot to you as a person? Is she part of your identity? There are many things you can do to spice your relationship up but just know that relationships naturally slow down after a while.

Many people mistake this to be a bad thing. However, it is your choice to let that fire die off completely. Can you talk to her about anything? Can you speak your mind without fear of being judged? If so, give this girl and your relationship more of a fighting chance. Don't defeat it right off the bat. I'm not saying you would regret breaking up with her (perhaps you would) but what I'm saying is that you don't want to throw something away because you were confused.

Take her out every now and then but do not be surprised when there are nights where you want to have sex and she doesn't want to and vice versa (that's not my business I don't know if you two are active but you get the point).

Definitely think way more about this. My vote would be to stay in the relationship but try to mix things up a little bit. Take her somewhere you would both enjoy and surprise her with something.

But if she wants to cuddle up and watch television that's totally okay. The chance to cuddle is enjoyable for me personally so I like it but I understand if you want something a little more.

But just know that if she likes it then you should do it. If you like something and she doesn't then that's something you can work through as well.


Thanks for the advice. It means a lot. And we're like that, where we can speak our minds about anything. I know for sure at this point I'm going to stay with her. I'm not going to let the flame die off so easily. I'll keep it going as long as we need each other. Looking back at what I had said, I feel bad. I could never imagine being with anyone else to be honest.

I love her, and she feels the same. I just feel so odd about how we're so young, and yet our relationship is so evolved. I don't know how to put my thoughts into words effectively, but I think you get the gist of what I'm saying...

  • 12.12.2012 6:24 PM PDT

Marine Corps.
Semper Fi.

Posted by: Wikked Navajoe
My problems [with Reach] are basically just full parties, mlg, and people who go out of their way not to get killed.


Posted by: Mister Donut
I could never imagine being with anyone else to be honest.

I love her, and she feels the same. I just feel so odd about how we're so young, and yet our relationship is so evolved. I don't know how to put my thoughts into words effectively, but I think you get the gist of what I'm saying...


This is all the answer you need. Stay with her, man.

  • 12.12.2012 6:25 PM PDT

Marine Corps.
Semper Fi.

Posted by: Wikked Navajoe
My problems [with Reach] are basically just full parties, mlg, and people who go out of their way not to get killed.

What's more than that: Mix things up and take her out to dinner or someplace fun. Bowling or something.

  • 12.12.2012 6:26 PM PDT

Rock bottom is no place to set up camp. Especially in the dark.


Posted by: Viper Skills
What's more than that: Mix things up and take her out to dinner or someplace fun. Bowling or something.


I'll have to start saving up money or something, as I get no sort of allowance. Once again, thank you for the help.

You may not know it, but simple little things like this give me hope that there are still good people left in the world. You could have kept scrolling, but you decided to help anyway. Thank you a million times.

  • 12.12.2012 6:34 PM PDT

Marine Corps.
Semper Fi.

Posted by: Wikked Navajoe
My problems [with Reach] are basically just full parties, mlg, and people who go out of their way not to get killed.

Hey, man, anytime. Feel free to PM me with any more questions. Best of luck to you and your lady.

  • 12.12.2012 6:49 PM PDT

You've got to spice up the relationship a little.

Next time you see her sprinkle pepper on her.

  • 12.12.2012 6:51 PM PDT
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Abuse her

That'll make things interesting

  • 12.12.2012 6:53 PM PDT


Posted by: PROBLEM2342
Abuse her

That'll make things interesting

^this
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I would recommend just talking to her about it.

  • 12.12.2012 7:00 PM PDT

Mix things up a bit. Go do things.

  • 12.12.2012 7:01 PM PDT

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