Rock bottom is no place to set up camp. Especially in the dark.
Posted by: Viper Skills
Posted by: Mister Donut
Posted by: Viper Skills
Posted by: Mister Donut
She makes me so happy, and I feel very content with her. But is it wrong of me to think of what else is out there for me to experience?
We're perfect for each other, and I don't know if I like it...
Are you trying to convince yourself that you're happy with her? There is nothing wrong with cuddling and watching movies. Why is it implied this is a bad thing?
That isn't what the problem is. Sorry for the wrong implications. The problem is, I have very strong feelings for her, but I don't know if I want both of us to be "done" relationship wise. It's becoming quite serious, and both of us already act like an elderly couple, as weird as that sounds. We were pretty much made for each other, to be honest. But at this point, there is nothing exciting going on. No struggles. I feel like it would be better for both of us to have more experience with others instead of being so content already...
My advice to you will be helpful, then. I recently got engaged so serious relationships are right up my alley.
The relationship you are in is by no means a bad or "boring" one as you may fear it is. Acting like an old couple as you say is actually how relationships typically evolve. Why do people stay in them? Well, discounting the relationships which are held together by financial support, people stay in these relationships because they love the other person.
I'm not talking about lovey-dovey stuff. I'm talking about love. Unconditional, you're-in-the-wrong-but-I-love-you-anyway love. Does this girl mean a lot to you as a person? Is she part of your identity? There are many things you can do to spice your relationship up but just know that relationships naturally slow down after a while.
Many people mistake this to be a bad thing. However, it is your choice to let that fire die off completely. Can you talk to her about anything? Can you speak your mind without fear of being judged? If so, give this girl and your relationship more of a fighting chance. Don't defeat it right off the bat. I'm not saying you would regret breaking up with her (perhaps you would) but what I'm saying is that you don't want to throw something away because you were confused.
Take her out every now and then but do not be surprised when there are nights where you want to have sex and she doesn't want to and vice versa (that's not my business I don't know if you two are active but you get the point).
Definitely think way more about this. My vote would be to stay in the relationship but try to mix things up a little bit. Take her somewhere you would both enjoy and surprise her with something.
But if she wants to cuddle up and watch television that's totally okay. The chance to cuddle is enjoyable for me personally so I like it but I understand if you want something a little more.
But just know that if she likes it then you should do it. If you like something and she doesn't then that's something you can work through as well.
Thanks for the advice. It means a lot. And we're like that, where we can speak our minds about anything. I know for sure at this point I'm going to stay with her. I'm not going to let the flame die off so easily. I'll keep it going as long as we need each other. Looking back at what I had said, I feel bad. I could never imagine being with anyone else to be honest.
I love her, and she feels the same. I just feel so odd about how we're so young, and yet our relationship is so evolved. I don't know how to put my thoughts into words effectively, but I think you get the gist of what I'm saying...