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Posted by: Direct Control
Don't let it bug you OP. I'm in the same boat as you. I'm physically fit (Training for West Point), I have good grades, and I'm decently sociable, and yet, I've never even held a girl's hand. I've liked plenty of girls, but they never seem to work out.
At one point, I was simply afraid of rejection. It was a situation where I liked a girl so much I'd rather be alone then face her rejection and the eventual ending of our friendship. This fear prevented me from accomplishing anything.
After that, I actually started to meet girls who liked me, but that just revealed a deeper insecurity that prevented me from actually entering into a relationship. After all these years, I have no idea how to act in a relationship. Don't get me wrong, I'm decently outgoing, but I have severe issues with basic empathy and emotional connections. (I blame most of it on a rough childhood). Once I realized this, I flat out gave up, because every girl I got close to needed more than I was capable of. No matter what I did I could not fake the actual connection other people feel.
Knowing that I had never even kissed a girl while my friends are out getting -blam!- was never fun. I used to beat myself up about it over and over. The long list of failures, and how I know very well what is the problem has always plagued me. To this day I feel resentment that I couldn't just be normal. After a while though, I let it go. I'll find a girl out there for me one day, but I stopped making it a priority that would keep me up at night. OP, just relax, there are more important things out there. If you can't get a girlfriend, try building stronger relationships with your family and friends. And remember, at least you don't have something wrong with you that prevents you from having a meaningful relationships, god knows I can't talk to my family, much less keep friends or talk with women.
^this