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Subject: So, Haven't really been able to go 30 mins without crying.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3

So, To make the story short.

I leave for the Army in 26 days.

Tuesday afternoon, I had to rush my son to the ER.

( My son was born premature he has apnea and reflux [IE Breathing issue} and they got worst)

While at the ER my wife Told me because of this she would not be coming down to base with me and that she would be staying with her parents. Mind you this is a 3 year separation. Maybe 30-45 days a year seeing her and my son.

Upon her saying this I said, well, then it looks like we will no longer be married.

To which she says: Oh I was just talking I didn't mean I'd really do it.


At this point I was pretty hurt.



Well my son is admitted, and while he is admitted Child protective services come to my wife and say that they will take him unless she files a report against me.

Well she has.


I am so confused and I do not know what to do.

I have not felt this level of hurt in my entire life.


Please someone cheer me up, my family is trying to, But I just am so confused right now.

Everything was amazing a few days ago but now, I am like where am I, am I dreaming?!?!? WAKE UP!!!



*CLARIFYING THINGS*


Ok, I leave for the Army, January 8th 2012, I am enlisted as a Medical care specialist which mean I could be anything within the army medical related that does not require a college degree.

I will likely be based at a hospital in country.


Now, My wife, and I, have had problems in the past with her including her parents in our business, arguments, and personal things, like my fears, and what have yous.

Now, To tuesday of this week.

Our son is on an apnea monitor, It watches his heart and respiration, on this day he was have more events than usual, heart dipping, and Respiration dropping. Now this is normal as he is premature, and will eventually outgrow it.

( He is now 3 months at 6 months they outgrow it)

So we take him to the Hospital, they admit him for observation which is to be expected.

While in the in processing area, she looks at me and says I am going to stay here and live with my parents while you are gone in the Army.

I am like um what, I ask her to explain why.

She says because of days like this, Mind you, She will not be moving on base for 6 months, at which point our son will be nearly a year old, well beyond his the age for his current issues.

I say this.

She basically whatevs it.

I get mad.

I tell her I will not have a marriage separated by god knows how many miles.

I tell her If she does this, then we will no longer be married.

She says she was just talking.


I have derp face.


here we are 3 days later.

I am waiting for CPS to get here to interview me.

I guess a Nurse overheard the argument, and they are mandated to report it.


From what I have gathered, she said a bunch of other things to the social worker.

No idea what.

So yea that is all I know at this point.



Also, I am prior service, My wife is the reason I chose to reenlist, she supported me, and was for it.

I would not have if she was not supportive.

[Edited on 12.13.2012 7:14 AM PST]

  • 12.13.2012 5:17 AM PDT

Posted by: DAS B00T x2
It's okay, Cobra. I've m­asturbated to you too.

Your wife sounds like a fu­cking nutter, mate.

What is the compliant she filed about?

  • 12.13.2012 5:19 AM PDT

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3


Posted by: Cobra LC
Your wife sounds like a fu­cking nutter, mate.

What is the compliant she filed about?


Have no idea.

They are not allowed to tell me.

all I know is that they threatened to take our son from her and she fell for it.

[Edited on 12.13.2012 5:22 AM PST]

  • 12.13.2012 5:22 AM PDT


Posted by: Cobra LC
Your wife sounds like a fu­cking nutter, mate.


^
Sorry about that dude.

  • 12.13.2012 5:26 AM PDT

Things get worse before they get better.

  • 12.13.2012 5:27 AM PDT

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3


Posted by: SILO 170
Things get worse before they get better.


:(

  • 12.13.2012 5:28 AM PDT

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I work for the Department of Defense.

Good thing you signed up for the military when you had a wife and child.

Don't worry, being away for years at a time is the best choice for a healthy marriage.

Yep, I'm crass as hell, but I dunno what you expect man, It's not like you'll keep your son if you're deployed / in the military. That lifestyle is too mobile and sporadic to be able to contest you're a suitable parent.

  • 12.13.2012 5:28 AM PDT

Well, I've been economical with the truth.

Ahh come on buddy, you go serve your country proud, even if your son gets taken away, know that you'll still be protecting him no matter what, he'll always be your son. But I hope all goes well for you mate, you can't have a rainbow without a little bit of rain.

  • 12.13.2012 5:31 AM PDT

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Posted by: Darkm0d
Good thing you signed up for the military when you had a wife and child.

Don't worry, being away for years at a time is the best choice for a healthy marriage.

Yep, I'm crass as hell, but I dunno what you expect man, It's not like you'll keep your son if you're deployed / in the military. That lifestyle is too mobile and sporadic to be able to contest you're a suitable parent.

  • 12.13.2012 5:31 AM PDT

Posted by: DAS B00T x2
It's okay, Cobra. I've m­asturbated to you too.


Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: Cobra LC
Your wife sounds like a fu­cking nutter, mate.

What is the compliant she filed about?


Have no idea.

They are not allowed to tell me.

all I know is that they threatened to take our son from her and she fell for it.


That's shan...

  • 12.13.2012 5:32 AM PDT

Every mushroom could has its silver lining. Remember that.

  • 12.13.2012 5:33 AM PDT
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I don't understand what exactly happened.

  • 12.13.2012 5:33 AM PDT

I feel sorry for you OP. You got yourself in a mess hard to get out of. But with a little bit of hope and prayers (if you believe) theres no doubt the clouds will pass and the storm will subside. I too can say that ive gotten myself in a tanglement.

First off you shouldnt of joined the military if you knew your wife and son needed you. Especially now. The military takes you out from your normal life and bashes you with cruel realities. I really do hope it gets better for you pal. Im sorry.

  • 12.13.2012 5:35 AM PDT

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3


Posted by: Green Rey
I feel sorry for you OP. You got yourself in a mess hard to get out of. But with a little bit of hope and prayers (if you believe) theres no doubt the clouds will pass and the storm will subside. I too can say that ive gotten myself in a tanglement.

First off you shouldnt of joined the military if you knew your wife and son needed you. Especially now. The military takes you out from your normal life and bashes you with cruel realities. I really do hope it gets better for you pal. Im sorry.



Thanks, Prayer is all I need right now ^_^


I just needed to vet a little emotion.


  • 12.13.2012 5:38 AM PDT
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Foman is my favorite moderator. <3

Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?

  • 12.13.2012 5:42 AM PDT

Sorry to hear that OP, I hope everything eventually works out for you bro.

  • 12.13.2012 5:43 AM PDT

Well, I've been economical with the truth.


Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?
They are actually starting up the SPARTAN-II project.

  • 12.13.2012 5:45 AM PDT
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Posted by: angry0lbgrampa
So, To make the story short.

I leave for the Army in 26 days.

Tuesday afternoon, I had to rush my son to the ER.

( My son was born premature he has apnea and reflux [IE Breathing issue} and they got worst)

While at the ER my wife Told me because of this she would not be coming down to base with me and that she would be staying with her parents. Mind you this is a 3 year separation. Maybe 30-45 days a year seeing her and my son.

Upon her saying this I said, well, then it looks like we will no longer be married.

To which she says: Oh I was just talking I didn't mean I'd really do it.


At this point I was pretty hurt.



Well my son is admitted, and while he is admitted Child protective services come to my wife and say that they will take him unless she files a report against me.

Well she has.


I am so confused and I do not know what to do.

I have not felt this level of hurt in my entire life.


Please someone cheer me up, my family is trying to, But I just am so confused right now.

Everything was amazing a few days ago but now, I am like where am I, am I dreaming?!?!? WAKE UP!!!
I'm confused. From what I've got this is what happened:

You were recruited in the Army but before you were to leave to base, your son had to be rushed to ER. When your wife said she will move to her parents house while you were away, you suggested a divorce, but she sounds like she doesn't want that and decides to stay at her current location. Then Child Services come and she files a child abuse report against you. They refuse to tell you the details.

Let me start off about the file suite. At its current state it is illegal. Why? Becuase it is a law to tell you what you are being accused of and anything else relating, if they don't then its an illegal suite and will be thrown away in court.

Secondly, you told your wife you would divorce after realizing how long you will be away. Well thats something you should've thought of before joining. Marriage is a big thing, you have to give up some things for a good marriage.

Last but not least, I am kinda appalled by both of you, filing lawsuits and already suggesting divorces when your child is in the hospital. I grew up without a mom and my Dad was not in my childhood due to his job. I'd rather not see a child have to deal with that like I did. So I suggest both of ya'll get the act together for sake of the child.

  • 12.13.2012 5:49 AM PDT

Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Thanks, Prayer is all I need right now ^_^


I just needed to vet a little emotion.


Im very glad i could do something. Everybody needs little bit of company when they feel overwhelmed by life's courses. When i do and have nobody to share feelings with, i feel like ending it all there at once. But its the people around that makes you stay. Your wife loves you, and your son will love you just as much. Im sure you love your wife as well. Display your affection towards. Her sometimes women need to be shown that you love them very much (not talking about sex). Do something that will reach deep into her heart.

  • 12.13.2012 5:50 AM PDT

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3


Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?


I guess do to new laws, having an argument in front of your child is abuse.

Go congress...Woo hoo.

[Edited on 12.13.2012 5:54 AM PST]

  • 12.13.2012 5:54 AM PDT

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What use all those incredible firework dimensions if no eye fixes and reflects, no brain takes notes, no heart moves with passion at the display?

NASA answers the silent cry of the Cosmos for recognition.

NASA is the witness and we fellow witnesses to the endless deeps.

I guess this really puts the other problems people perennially wail about into perspective.

You should probably just come to terms with this potential separation and move on.

  • 12.13.2012 5:59 AM PDT

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Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?


I guess do to new laws, having an argument in front of your child is abuse.

Go congress...Woo hoo.
Thats a bunch of crap, I'd get a lawyer or read up on your rights before you accept that fish crap

  • 12.13.2012 6:03 AM PDT

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” – Psalms 46:1-3


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Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?


I guess do to new laws, having an argument in front of your child is abuse.

Go congress...Woo hoo.
Thats a bunch of crap, I'd get a lawyer or read up on your rights before you accept that fish crap


I just did, It is actual Michigan State Law.


Also, I guess Michigan has the worst Child protective services in the country. When it comes to persecuting the parents.

  • 12.13.2012 6:05 AM PDT

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Posted by: karsttheninja99

Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?


I guess do to new laws, having an argument in front of your child is abuse.

Go congress...Woo hoo.
Thats a bunch of crap, I'd get a lawyer or read up on your rights before you accept that fish crap


I just did, It is actual Michigan State Law.


Also, I guess Michigan has the worst Child protective services in the country. When it comes to persecuting the parents.
I'm in NY, so I haven't heard of that law, but if you love your family, fight for them. I'll try and see what the law says, do you know what its called?

  • 12.13.2012 6:07 AM PDT
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Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: karsttheninja99

Posted by: angry0lbgrampa

Posted by: A Good Troll
Why does Child Protective Services think you hurt your kid?


I guess do to new laws, having an argument in front of your child is abuse.

Go congress...Woo hoo.
Thats a bunch of crap, I'd get a lawyer or read up on your rights before you accept that fish crap


I just did, It is actual Michigan State Law.


Also, I guess Michigan has the worst Child protective services in the country. When it comes to persecuting the parents.
Go and read the 6th Admendment. The suite is illegal until it bides to the law.

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