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"What are we holding on to, Sam?"
"That there's some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for."
Posted by: Rampant Tragedy
Posted by: swvjdirector
Posted by: Rampant Tragedy
Sticking to things you're comfortable with and good at seems nice now, but remember that what you want is going to change over time. In the future you'll probably regret not going outside of your comfort zone, especially when you have difficulty with it in various situations due to lack of experience.
I sometimes worry that this will happen to me. I honestly spend almost all my time alone; I really don't do well relating to people either. But if at some point in the future that all changes, I'm really screwed. I don't see what to do; I can either hang out with people now and not enjoy it, or I can enjoy myself now and potentially set myself up for a worse situation later. Tough call.Not if; when. You will need to deal with people on a daily basis as an adult, so not practicing now is definitely going to screw you over. Don't think of it as not enjoying hanging out with people now; think about it kind of like an RPG. If you don't build up certain stats early on, your deficiency is not only going to be noticeable later, it's going to be irreversible.
That's actually a great example; it made my day to see life described like that! It makes sense, I suppose. I do well relating to people with similar interests to mine, or people I respect. But I'm just so introverted, it seems very difficult to change my entire outlook on people.
For example, as a competitive chess player, you kind of develop this way of thinking about people. You have to view them as calculating machines whose only goal is to beat you. You start thinking that you're better than them, or you hold them in contempt. I do it so much, that's started to bleed over into real life; I just see people as things to manipulate or defeat. I know that sounds really crazy and probably a tad emo, and I don't mean for it to. I just think I've set myself up badly for social interactions.