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Be not afraid, for the forest nymphs have taught me how to pleasure a women.

Some of you may have seen my other thread...and saw that the past few days have not been kind to me.

I'm changing this -blam!-.

I need help. Like real help.

I've decided to work out my character flaws.

The first one, is motivation.
How do you stay motivated, even when pressed with impossible odds/hopelessness.
Up until this past quarter, I thought my motivation levels were good, but now I see they're not as high as I want them to be. I've been accepting mediocre and I'm tired of that -blam!-. How do I motivate myself to become exceptional? I'm tired of being average. Especially because when you're average, then on a bad day/time, you're below average. I mean the reason I'm not a good student at school is that I can't force myself to sit down and study a subject that I don't like, even though I know it's crucial for me to get at least decent grades. Now because of that, my parents may pull me from school. I understand their reasoning, but it's crazy to me that even with that in my face, I still can't just sit my ass down and do what needs to be done just because "it's not my favorite/strong subject".

The second is in relationships. Now calm down...this part isn't entirely about girls. Some of you may be reading this going "Well why the -blam!- did you come to the internet. Talk to your friends." That's the thing. I have friends. A -blam!- ton of friends...but few that would consider me a true friend, and few that I myself consider true friends. I've always seen people in my life as somewhat disposable. Not that I use them, but that I never really ever get too emotionally attached to someone. I thought that was a good thing. I never saw it as something that hurt me. But now, when I find myself in trouble and in need of someone to talk to, I feel like I don't have that many places to turn. And by that, I mean I only expressed myself to one person, and even then, I was hesitant about it. I'm tired of that. I'm tired of not being close to people/understanding them emotionally.

This goes in hand with relationships. I've never been able to have a solid real relationship, partially because of the above, that I just don't get emotionally attached/close to people, so it's difficult for me to get going to start a relationship, but also because of other reasons. Firstly, I don't really know how to flirt well, or how to gauge/understand if someone is interested in me. I mean, there's someone that I'm interested in right now. But I don't know if she's interested in me or not. And I don't know how to gauge/start that. And it's not like there's anything wrong with me. Quite the contrary. I'm not bad looking, I mean I know I'm not extraordinarily good looking, but I'm not bad at all. I have a -blam!- ton of hobbies/interests that it seems would normally help me when it comes to having people be interested in me. I'm working on a rescue certification for diving, I'm known by those around as one of the best musicians, I have extensive martial arts training, people have told me I'm one of the best cooks they know(I won hands down a cooking competition between quite a few people), I'm a solid bartender, I'm funny, and I have a solid sense of fashion for both men and women(I've been dragged clothes shopping by many of my female friends). But I can't seem to get out of being in the -blam!- friend zone.

My next flaw is physically. I'm not fat at all. I'm not skinny, but I'm not fat/chubby either. I'm not muscular/ripped, but I'm starting to get muscles. But I can't seem to motivate myself to workout. This is really bad too, because since I started diving, I found my dream is to become a Combat Diver in the Army. This is special forces. I'm not stupid. I need to be in peak physical state to even have a shot to become a Combat Diver. And it seems that I have everything. I'm a natural shot with guns(my friends in the military tell me that I'd get a marksman rating on both pistol and rifle, even though I've never had any formal teaching or anything with guns...it just seems to come natural to me), I speak Farsi, I'm working on Chinese, and after that I plan on learning Russian. I mean, it seems to me like I'm set mentally, but I can't motivate myself physically. It bugs me too cause when I was a kid, hell even to last year, I was fat. Now I'm finally at a point where I'm becoming healthy, and I have a real dream to work for, and I can't even motivate myself for my dream. I mean I could understand if I don't become a combat diver because I can't pass the class/tests, but to not be able to even try to achieve my dream because I can't motivate myself to work out. I guess this is again related to the first point.

So Flood I know it's the internet...and it's the flood, and I wrote a book...but anyone have any real advice for me?

  • 12.17.2012 3:00 PM PDT
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Why So Serious?

"I'm gonna go America all over everybody's asses!"
-Charlie, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia

Holy -blam!- wall of text, Batman.

  • 12.17.2012 3:01 PM PDT

Be not afraid, for the forest nymphs have taught me how to pleasure a women.


Posted by: Not The Joker
Holy -blam!- wall of text, Batman.

Read it and help me, or leave.

I know it's a lot, but I need help from somewhere, and honestly, I'm not sure where to turn.

  • 12.17.2012 3:05 PM PDT
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Why So Serious?

"I'm gonna go America all over everybody's asses!"
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Posted by: MENDICANT_BIAS
WHERE'S THE TRIGGER?!


LOL

  • 12.17.2012 3:07 PM PDT
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Two movies you should watch: Fight Club and Pineapple Express

"Wait. What do you mean, it's dead?"
"If marijuana is not legal within the next five years I have no faith left in humanity, period. Everyone likes smoking weed. They have for thousands of years. They're not going to stop anytime soon. You know? It makes everything better. Makes food taste better, makes music better. It makes sex feel better for God's sake. It makes -blam!- movies better you know?"

I'm not going to read it but I'll throw out a couple things from skimming. Workout, if you're depressed try to switch it with anger (this really does help), try and change your mindset man. The last one is definitely the hardest.

  • 12.17.2012 3:12 PM PDT

Be not afraid, for the forest nymphs have taught me how to pleasure a women.


Posted by: Bigfoot1010
I'm not going to read it but I'll throw out a couple things from skimming. Workout, if you're depressed try to switch it with anger (this really does help), try and change your mindset man. The last one is definitely the hardest.

See that's the thing. I'm not depressed.

I just don't have the motivation. Like I'll think "Oh I should workout...eh...I'll just practice guitar instead."
Like I find something else to do to avoid it. Even though I know I need to workout.

  • 12.17.2012 3:14 PM PDT
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Two movies you should watch: Fight Club and Pineapple Express

"Wait. What do you mean, it's dead?"
"If marijuana is not legal within the next five years I have no faith left in humanity, period. Everyone likes smoking weed. They have for thousands of years. They're not going to stop anytime soon. You know? It makes everything better. Makes food taste better, makes music better. It makes sex feel better for God's sake. It makes -blam!- movies better you know?"

You need to stop man. I'd be pissed if I kept procrastinating like that which I did used to do. When it comes to working out imagine the body you want and it should help motivate you. I used to do 100 crunches a day and moved up to 1000+. I don't do that anymore but it became fun and satisfying.

  • 12.17.2012 3:20 PM PDT

Be not afraid, for the forest nymphs have taught me how to pleasure a women.


Posted by: Bigfoot1010
You need to stop man. I'd be pissed if I kept procrastinating like that which I did used to do. When it comes to working out imagine the body you want and it should help motivate you. I used to do 100 crunches a day and moved up to 1000+. I don't do that anymore but it became fun and satisfying.

Alright.

I guess the biggest part is that I just need to accept the fact that mediocrity isn't good enough for me anymore, both physically and mentally and even if I'm not motivated, I need to to do what has to be done and then some.


Anyone got any advice for me relationship/emotionally wise?


I mean is it normal to not be that close with people in general? Also, why can I never seem to get a relationship going? Is it cause of my lack of self-esteem and that I don't think I'm good enough for the people I like? Or is it because I don't know how to gauge interest?
See this is what happens when you don't let your kids date until they turn 18 and make sure they follow that rule. They don't know how to handle basic relationship situations. They just end up doing short-term non-sustainable things. Let this be a lesson to you future/current parent flood.

  • 12.17.2012 3:32 PM PDT


Posted by: Leafie
Some of you may have seen my other thread...and saw that the past few days have not been kind to me.

I'm changing this -blam!-.

I need help. Like real help.


SO I'LL GO ASK SOME LITTLE KIDS ON A GAMING FORUM LOL

  • 12.17.2012 3:34 PM PDT

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Posted by: Leafie
Some of you may have seen my other thread...and saw that the past few days have not been kind to me.

I'm changing this -blam!-.

I need help. Like real help.


SO I'LL GO ASK SOME LITTLE KIDS ON A GAMING FORUM LOL

I talked about that in the post.
I know this isn't the best place, but I don't really know who/where else to go. I feel like I'm at the end of my ropes so I came here. Hell I figure even if people say stupid ass things in this thread, it'll get me thinking.

Besides, I know there's smart people somewhere on this forum...but then again...I haven't been here in a while...

  • 12.17.2012 3:35 PM PDT

tl;dr

  • 12.17.2012 3:41 PM PDT
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Two movies you should watch: Fight Club and Pineapple Express

"Wait. What do you mean, it's dead?"
"If marijuana is not legal within the next five years I have no faith left in humanity, period. Everyone likes smoking weed. They have for thousands of years. They're not going to stop anytime soon. You know? It makes everything better. Makes food taste better, makes music better. It makes sex feel better for God's sake. It makes -blam!- movies better you know?"

Saying I'm not smart. ;(
I'll think about that relationship question but I can't see how you're not depressed. Low self-esteem is usually a sign of it.

  • 12.17.2012 3:45 PM PDT

Well it seems like motivation is the key underlying problem to your life. You need to realize at a moment in which you want to do something that you will change, be determined, and do something for once. Determination is key here, you have to strengthen your will power and stay concentrated on a task or to tell yourself "Hey, I don't like how I am, I'll prove myself wrong and actually do this". When I find myself in a position where I know I should get off my lazy ass and do something, I tend to count to a number like 10 or 20 and I try to jump up and get to that task before I hit that number (or the number stands as the maximum number to hit, once I hit it I jump up automatically). Pulling yourself up before you reach the number helps you learn to have some will power. Just stay determined and concentrated. If you want to actually have relationships with your many friends then keep that in mind and hang around some of the people you like most and talk to them and make plans for the weekend and try to get close to more people. You can only hold yourself back.

And there is no such thing as the "friend zone". You just need to have the courage to tell a girl you like her and to flirt openly and to ask hero ut, otherwise she just sees you as a ghey friend essentially.

I'm really close with about six of my friends mainly because I try to talk to them every other day at least and know them and laugh with them and try to relate to them or help them out with their problems as well. Friendliness and wanting to be closer to someone should help you out.

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  • 12.17.2012 3:47 PM PDT

Be not afraid, for the forest nymphs have taught me how to pleasure a women.


Posted by: Bigfoot1010
Saying I'm not smart. ;(
I'll think about that relationship question but I can't see how you're not depressed. Low self-esteem is usually a sign of it.

Hahaha nooo!

I didn't mean that. I meant that even if someone posts something stupid, at least it's a different viewpoint I can think about.

And I guess it's not really low self-esteem.
I guess it's just that this is the first time in my life I'd be considered decent/kind of good looking, so I'm not used to that and I don't know how to use that.
Where, people who I used to think were out of my league, now, actually aren't.

  • 12.17.2012 3:50 PM PDT
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Two movies you should watch: Fight Club and Pineapple Express

"Wait. What do you mean, it's dead?"
"If marijuana is not legal within the next five years I have no faith left in humanity, period. Everyone likes smoking weed. They have for thousands of years. They're not going to stop anytime soon. You know? It makes everything better. Makes food taste better, makes music better. It makes sex feel better for God's sake. It makes -blam!- movies better you know?"

Hmm. Just throwing something out here. It may help, it may not idk. Be cocky, act like an alpha. Don't think about things that get you down. If you do then catch yourself. Like I said before, try and change you mindset. It'll really help you feel better about doing things and trying new stuff.

  • 12.17.2012 4:02 PM PDT

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So I come back to the Flood after months, and the first thread I click is a wall of text about your problems. I can see this place hasn't changed much

  • 12.17.2012 4:05 PM PDT

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Posted by: Leafie
How do you stay motivated, even when pressed with impossible odds/hopelessness.

You would be the first to die in a zombie apocalypse.


Posted by: Leafie
but anyone have any real advice for me?

Toast.




Didn't read the rest.

  • 12.17.2012 4:08 PM PDT