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Subject: Nice Guy Syndrome

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.

I found a link to this Tumblr in another group and just had to share.

What do you guys think about this? Personally, I have definitely seen a lot of cases of what the internet has dubbed Nice Guy Syndrome - the debilitating condition wherein someone thinks that the fact that they're "nice" should be enough of a draw to hook them the romantic partner of their choice. I have seen both male and female versions of this, so it's definitely not a guy-specific thing, despite the name. It doesn't appear to be limited to a certain type of person, either - I've seen relatively decent-looking people who are just completely devoid of any kind of interesting personality traits fall prey to it as well.

What I don't get is why anyone thinks niceness by itself is some kind of get-all-the-partners-free card. I mean...isn't that just the basic minimum requirement for any decent human being? Aren't we all meant to be nice? What is even more boggling is the idea that there are people who see niceness as a means to an end - like, it's not worth being nice to another person if they're not going to sleep with you. If you're only nice to people so they'll give you what you want, aren't you...not really all that nice at all?

Maybe I'm missing something here. (As people here like to point out, I often seem to be.) So explain to me: do you think niceness should guarantee you a date? Have you witnessed Nice Guy Syndrome in your personal life, either from friends or prospective partners? And is Nice Guys of OKC the best Tumblr ever, or what?

  • 12.20.2012 12:39 PM PDT
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i think it should be a factor but not the diffinative reason for somebody to get the person they want
EDIT- the reason i am nice is because i like to be nice

[Edited on 12.20.2012 12:45 PM PST]

  • 12.20.2012 12:41 PM PDT
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A date?
Yes.
A relationship?
No.

  • 12.20.2012 12:41 PM PDT
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Their mistake is posting online how nice they are and not going out in the real world meeting people and getting to know them.

  • 12.20.2012 12:41 PM PDT

Per Audacia Ad Astra

Not guarantee, but increase the likeliness of a date.

  • 12.20.2012 12:42 PM PDT

This is the lamest "Tumblr" as you call it I've ever seen.

  • 12.20.2012 12:42 PM PDT
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"Scio me nihil scire." - Socrates

Based on the name I assumed it to be something more along the lines of a compulsory need to be nice. I haven't really observed any showing nice guy syndrome as observed here.

  • 12.20.2012 12:42 PM PDT
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Inappropriate. Went a little to far with the butt hole tearing.

I just try to be nice. I'm not always successful, but most of the time, I'm not a bad guy.

Asking out a girl and being nice seem kinda unrelated to me. You flirt with a girl. If she's interested, she flirts back. Then you ask her out.

Doesn't seem that hard to me.

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  • 12.20.2012 12:43 PM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Emperor Gillard
A date?
Yes.
A relationship?
No.
But...why?

If some random guy/girl is nice to me and then asks me on a date, why should they be able to expect that I'll say yes? What if I just don't find them interesting or attractive? What if I already have a partner and was interacting with them without any kind of ulterior motive, just taking their niceness at face value? Don't people have the right to turn down a date for whatever reason they want, whenever they want?

  • 12.20.2012 12:44 PM PDT
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No.

I mainly only hear people complaining about it on this website.

  • 12.20.2012 12:46 PM PDT

lol those "nice guys" = ugly guys

  • 12.20.2012 12:46 PM PDT

Don't mistake a temptation for an opportunity.

I always see guys complaining about how girls only want -blam!-s so they are going to stop being nice, heck even I used to have that kind of mindset

  • 12.20.2012 12:47 PM PDT
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Being nice is one thing. Being a huge puss is another.

  • 12.20.2012 12:47 PM PDT

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Posted by: brandorobot
Being nice is one thing. Being a huge puss is another.


You could probably get closer to girls but you will be seen as the friend that "likes dudes".

  • 12.20.2012 12:50 PM PDT
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Posted by: loiter squad
This is the lamest "Tumblr" as you call it I've ever seen.

This one is way better.

  • 12.20.2012 12:51 PM PDT

http://i.imgur.com/fsISj.png

Being a "nice guy" is the equivalent of the really overweight girls who say they "have a big heart". It's nothing but people trying to argue their unattractive attributes are in fact them being misunderstood by society. Needless to say, it doesn't work.

  • 12.20.2012 12:52 PM PDT
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In my opinion, being nice is important in life. A lot of people here fail to realize that girls want confidence in a guy than just niceness. Also, you can't be nice all the time, just like how you can't be happy or sad all the time too. I personally am a bit assertive.

I'm not all nice and I'm not a douche either. Niceness only plays a small role really. People need to look at things in a realistic perspective. I'm not saying you should be a total douche to the person you want to date. No. But there are other people in this world that you will be nice to and will be a douche too. That's how it is. If you have a ladyfriend and someone is being a douche to her, you're not going to be nice to the douche. You're going to be a douche to the douche. Get what I mean? And if you are nice to the douche, well the only thing the douche is going to do is be a bigger douche and possibly kick your ass.

Now I'm mildly a douche, and I'm a real dick when people really piss me off, but overall. I'd say I'm nice. Do I fall into your idiotic category now internet? You know the 'Nice Guy Syndrome?' Because I can be nice, but at the same time I can be the biggest dick you ever dealt with. -blam!- you internet.

  • 12.20.2012 12:53 PM PDT

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  • 12.20.2012 12:54 PM PDT
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I also don't get why guys think girls want to be coddled like royalty. Holding open every door and pulling out every chair, that same guy would probably lay yourself down over a puddle so she wouldn't get her feet wet. It makes you look desperate as hell, and those are the same guys that probably smother the hell out of a girl when they do happen to get one.

  • 12.20.2012 12:56 PM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: brandorobot
I also don't get why guys think girls want to be coddled like royalty. Holding open every door and pulling out every chair, that same guy would probably lay yourself down over a puddle so she wouldn't get her feet wet. It makes you look desperate as hell, and those are the same guys that probably smother the hell out of a girl when they do happen to get one.
To be honest, I like having doors held open for me and chairs pulled out for me, because I grew up in a culture where it was expected that people would do that. There's nothing inherently wrong with being nice, that's not the point at all - the point is that you can't go "hey, I'm nice, why won't you date me?" as though that's literally all you have to do in order to get a partner.

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Posted by: jaythenerdkid
What is even more boggling is the idea that there are people who see niceness as a means to an end - like, it's not worth being nice to another person if they're not going to sleep with you. If you're only nice to people so they'll give you what you want, aren't you...not really all that nice at all?


Oh god, not exactly "nice guy syndrome" but I have a recent experience with this.

So my girl introduces me to one of her male friends and holy ducks, we get along fine. We honestly have no problems with each other and I think he's genuinely a pretty cool guy unlike some of her other friends which I either find downright annoying or are just massive -blam!-s to me for god knows what reason.

However, it's eventually revealed to him that the two of us are in a relationship and that's when everything changes. He starts being a condescending -blam!- to me and pretty much has a negative comment on everything I say or do. I eventually ask her what's up with him and she tells me that he basically thinks I'm an intolerable smartass, douche, and biggest kicker is that he likes her.

Quite honestly, I'm not ever sure what to label him other than a jellymad beta boy however I don't even know if that would be the correct terminology.

/blog

  • 12.20.2012 1:02 PM PDT
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I hold open doors and pull out chairs for women all the time. But I also sometimes move them again before they sit down so they fall on their ass.

Women gotta know their place you see.

  • 12.20.2012 1:02 PM PDT
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I used to suffer from it but then I realized I was being a cockface, so I stopped.

  • 12.20.2012 1:03 PM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Mr Pinata

Posted by: jaythenerdkid
What is even more boggling is the idea that there are people who see niceness as a means to an end - like, it's not worth being nice to another person if they're not going to sleep with you. If you're only nice to people so they'll give you what you want, aren't you...not really all that nice at all?


Oh god, not exactly "nice guy syndrome" but I have a recent experience with this.

So my girl introduces me to one of her male friends and holy ducks, we get along fine. We honestly have no problems with each other and I think he's genuinely a pretty cool guy unlike some of her other friends which I either find downright annoying or are just massive -blam!-s to me for god knows what reason.

However, it's eventually revealed to him that the two of us are in a relationship and that's when everything changes. He starts being a condescending -blam!- to me and pretty much has a negative comment on everything I say or do. I eventually ask her what's up with him and she tells me that he basically thinks I'm an intolerable smartass, douche, and biggest kicker is that he likes her.

Quite honestly, I'm not ever sure what to label him other than a jellymad beta boy however I don't even know if that would be the correct terminology.

/blog
Urgh, that guy. I was dating someone like that for a while. Didn't have a single nice thing to say about any male friend of mine, because he was insecure and jealous of anyone else who got my attention. Major turn-off.

  • 12.20.2012 1:04 PM PDT