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"The hero is the one who kindles a great light in the world, who sets up blazing torches in the dark streets of life for men to see by.
The saint is the man who walks through the dark paths of the world, himself a light."
-Felix Adler
Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Posted by: Emperor Gillard
Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Posted by: Emperor Gillard
A date?
Yes.
A relationship?
No.But...why?
If some random guy/girl is nice to me and then asks me on a date, why should they be able to expect that I'll say yes? What if I just don't find them interesting or attractive? What if I already have a partner and was interacting with them without any kind of ulterior motive, just taking their niceness at face value? Don't people have the right to turn down a date for whatever reason they want, whenever they want?
Well yeah, of course they have the right to turn them down. But the person who asked should at least be given a chance to prove themselves.Again, why?
Say I ask you on a date right now. Maybe I'm the nicest person in the world. Maybe I speak ten languages and play fifteen instruments and spend all my spare time saving orphans from poverty or whatever. Great! I am an awesome person. I am wonderful and special and deserving of praise.
But say you aren't attracted to girls with my hair colour. Say you already have a girlfriend. Say you just don't feel like going out with me because you don't feel a spark. None of that makes me any less awesome - it just means that my particular combination of traits isn't appealing to you for whatever reason.
And that's fine. Honestly, it is! You don't owe me a chance to "prove myself" if you don't want to give me one. You really don't. Nobody owes anyone else anything except a basic standard of human decency. And believe it or not, you don't have to take someone out on a date in order to be a decent human being, no matter how awesome that person may or may not be. If I then go off and complain about how no guys want nice girls who play fifteen instruments and care for orphaned babies, that doesn't make you some kind of monster - that makes me some kind of idiot for blaming your lack of interest in me on some kind of failing you have, rather than the fact that we just weren't compatible.
See? Nobody owes anyone anything. If you want something from someone else, you can ask for it, but if they don't give it to you, you don't have any right to expect that they should have. That's how life works - not just in terms of dating, but in terms of everything. Sure, there are social contracts that circumvent that - between parent and child, between friends, between bosses and their employees, etc - but if we're talking two strangers with no connection, or even two people who are friendly but don't have any kind of specific or explicit social contract mandating their behaviour? Nope. Nobody owes anyone anything. That's life.
1. I don't have a type in terms of looks. Unless someone is horrendously disgusting, then there's a chance I could become interested after getting to know them.
2. If I wasn't single, I would say no in every circumstance.
3. It depends on how much you know the person. If you just met, or have only known them for say a month or so, then you may not know particulars about them that could change your mind.
I.e. Person A is nice, but person B isn't interested. B agrees to go on a date anyway and learns that person A loves trains. This mutual passion opens B's eyes to A's other traits so they get married and have infinite children.
4. I can see where you're coming from, but unless you know them well enough or completely dislike (not indifferent to, but dislike) their personality, then they might as well be given a chance.