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Posted by: jaythenerdkid
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Posted by: DarkSunnyboy1
Jay is like The Flood's relationship guru.The only thing I can say is it's fitting. Can I be honest here?
In my teens, I was totally a Nice Girl. I really, really liked this one guy, and basically all I did for a longggggg time was follow him around, try to do things for him, fawn over him, put him first over other friends who were much better to me...on and on and on. I totally couldn't understand why he wouldn't drop everything and realise that I was the only girl who could ever possibly be right for him. And you know what it got me? Diddly-squat, that's what. When I fiiiiiiiiiiinally confessed my feelings (and was very politely and graciously rejected), I realised that if I'd done so right at the start, I may have actually had a chance, however slim, and by being a wimp for as long as I was (an embarrassingly long time, trust me), I'd basically screwed myself something over something chronic.
Life is learning experience. Sometimes, the lessons hurt. That lesson hurt for quite a while, but at least the pain made it stick. It taught me how to value myself, how to go after what I want, basically a bunch of useful things. Pretty much everything I know about relationships, I learned by doing some really dumb stuff. But since it all ended up leading to a wonderful relationship with a great guy who makes me very happy, I have to say it was totally worth it.One of my friends at my old college did that; she ended up in the same situation, but had zero chance from the get go.
Conversely, the reason why I'm cynical to the whole nice guy thing is it burned me a couple times. Girls think you're too meek. Bantering, being assertive, and being a little bit of a jerk (in a nice way) is the key.