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Posted by: Dustin 6047
Troll confirmed. I never even insulted you

Posted by: Dustin 6047
OP - You're a dumbass with the reading comprehension skills of a second grader.


Can someone tell me what's wrong with these two, this made me LOL hard.



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Posted by: Koolen
Their mistake is posting online how nice they are and not going out in the real world meeting people and getting to know them.
And the fact they don't treat -blam!-es like -blam!-es.
I posted how nice I am and there's a girl on my bed right now and she's playing Dark Souls. And making me look like a n00b that sucks at Dark Souls.

  • 12.20.2012 11:51 PM PDT

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Posted by: Cr4sh Dummy

Posted by: Koolen
Their mistake is posting online how nice they are and not going out in the real world meeting people and getting to know them.
And the fact they don't treat -blam!-es like -blam!-es.
I posted how nice I am and there's a girl on my bed right now and she's playing Dark Souls. And making me look like a n00b that sucks at Dark Souls.
That's fantastic. Tell me what happens next and see if you have the same perspective.

  • 12.20.2012 11:52 PM PDT
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Did you just get off school Crash? :P

  • 12.20.2012 11:53 PM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Baph117
I would say that taking advantage of suckers isn't all that great behaviour, but of course I'd be a bit of a hypocrite. Still, I don't think someone should complain about a friend trying to take their relationship to the next level when they've intentionally perpetuated those feelings in the first place in order to reap the rewards of a "pseudo-boyfriend" if you will (or girlfriend).
Thing is, Nice Guys don't try to take the relationship to the next level - they hang around forever and ever expecting that one day, the girl/boy of their dreams will turn around and magically reward their slavish devotion with sex, without any statement of intent or real effort to kickstart a romantic relationship on their part.

It's not like relationships can't grow from friendships. Relationships can even grow from those exploitative types of friendships (my first one did - he followed me around for a while, I eventually found it kind of cute, ended up being a big mistake, but whatever), but someone's gotta make a move first, you know? It's the hanging around forever expecting that niceness will just lead to sex magically as a reward for their basic human decency that bugs me. Combination of a worrying lack of agency and an expectation that people are owed sex and other favours as rewards, which is pretty sleazy.

  • 12.20.2012 11:56 PM PDT

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Posted by: petitminou
Did you just get off school Crash? :P
Yep, right before the end ;)

Seriously, I saw the whole nice guy thing at UCLA. Chicks thought some of the nicest guys were creeps lol! The crazy "frat douche" types always scored. And if you're in the middle like me, it's a crap shoot.

  • 12.20.2012 11:56 PM PDT

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I'm a nice guy and I have no problems getting women. Probably because I talk to them and treat them like human beings. When I like one I make sure they know I do. It's not rocket science or anything.

The secret to getting a really hot girl, is treat her like everyone else. She's used to guys going out of their way to help her, or tell her she's attractive, and things like that. Just treat her like a normal person and let her know you're interested. If you don't act amazed that she's hot then she won't think it's only for that reason. Also a lot of really hot women tend to intimidate guys so they actually don't have many that just talk to them.

[Edited on 12.21.2012 12:03 AM PST]

  • 12.21.2012 12:01 AM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Marinade
I'm a nice guy and I have no problems getting women. Probably because I talk to them and treat them like human beings. When I like one I make sure they know I do. It's not rocket science or anything.

The secret to getting a really hot girl, is treat her like everyone else. She's used to guys going out of their way to help her, or tell her she's attractive, and things like that. Just treat her like a normal person and let her know your interested. If you don't act amazed that she's hot then she won't think it's only for that reason. Also a lot of really hot women tend to intimidate guys so they actually don't have many that just talk to them.
I have actually had people go and tell my friends that they thought I was attractive because they were scared to tell me to my face. :( My default facial expression is a scowl, I guess I don't appear very approachable IRL. But it works out for me, because being in a long-term relationship, I'm not at all interested in being approached.

  • 12.21.2012 12:03 AM PDT

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Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Posted by: Marinade
I'm a nice guy and I have no problems getting women. Probably because I talk to them and treat them like human beings. When I like one I make sure they know I do. It's not rocket science or anything.

The secret to getting a really hot girl, is treat her like everyone else. She's used to guys going out of their way to help her, or tell her she's attractive, and things like that. Just treat her like a normal person and let her know your interested. If you don't act amazed that she's hot then she won't think it's only for that reason. Also a lot of really hot women tend to intimidate guys so they actually don't have many that just talk to them.
I have actually had people go and tell my friends that they thought I was attractive because they were scared to tell me to my face. :( My default facial expression is a scowl, I guess I don't appear very approachable IRL. But it works out for me, because being in a long-term relationship, I'm not at all interested in being approached.

That too. For a while I was afraid of talking to an attractive woman out of fear that she had a boyfriend. Which I quickly figured out was stupid.

If she has one and I let her know I'm interested. She'll either tell me she has one, or let it continue. Though a few times they let it continue, to a friends with benefits situation, because they wanted to cheat on their boyfriend. I never knew there was one until a while after though. So I don't feel bad about it.

  • 12.21.2012 12:05 AM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Marinade

That too. For a while I was afraid of talking to an attractive woman out of fear that she had a boyfriend. Which I quickly figured out was stupid.

If she has one and I let her know I'm interested. She'll either tell me she has one, or let it continue. Though a few times they let it continue, to a friends with benefits situation, because they wanted to cheat on their boyfriend. I never knew there was one until a while after though. So I don't feel bad about it.
Yeah, I've had a few guys show interest but they've backed off respectfully after I've told them I'm not available. There's definitely no harm in trying. I encourage my male friends to try with girls they like all the time. Some girls really hate being approached because they feel like it's a violation of privacy or personal space, but if you're polite and respectful about it, most girls won't mind. What I really hate is when guys try to talk to me when I have earphones in, because usually if I'm listening to music I don't want to talk to people. Same with people who try to strike up a conversation when I'm reading. But if I'm just sitting around and someone comes up to me, I usually don't mind as long as they back off if/when I ask.

  • 12.21.2012 12:10 AM PDT

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Sounds like you're describing the lower half of my body, actually.


Posted by: Marinade
Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Posted by: Marinade
I'm a nice guy and I have no problems getting women. Probably because I talk to them and treat them like human beings. When I like one I make sure they know I do. It's not rocket science or anything.

The secret to getting a really hot girl, is treat her like everyone else. She's used to guys going out of their way to help her, or tell her she's attractive, and things like that. Just treat her like a normal person and let her know your interested. If you don't act amazed that she's hot then she won't think it's only for that reason. Also a lot of really hot women tend to intimidate guys so they actually don't have many that just talk to them.
I have actually had people go and tell my friends that they thought I was attractive because they were scared to tell me to my face. :( My default facial expression is a scowl, I guess I don't appear very approachable IRL. But it works out for me, because being in a long-term relationship, I'm not at all interested in being approached.

That too. For a while I was afraid of talking to an attractive woman out of fear that she had a boyfriend. Which I quickly figured out was stupid.

If she has one and I let her know I'm interested. She'll either tell me she has one, or let it continue. Though a few times they let it continue, to a friends with benefits situation, because they wanted to cheat on their boyfriend. I never knew there was one until a while after though. So I don't feel bad about it.

Yeah those women are the easiest to get in bed with. Sometimes it is because their boyfriend sucks at sex.

  • 12.21.2012 12:11 AM PDT
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If you want to be nice to a person you expect them at least to care or to be nice back. Assuming that the said person has unwanted intentions or so say want to get in bed with you is completely narcissistic and delusional. I don't know many people who are like this or that they are nice just to get in bed with people.

What I can say though is, if the person being nice got nothing out of it being nice they will eventually move on because they don't have the energy to be a modern Ghandi. You can't expect something back from being nice though you want them to be nice for whatever anyway with no intentions. Sounds hypocritical to me.

  • 12.21.2012 12:11 AM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Delta SWE
If you want to be nice to a person you expect them at least to care or to be nice back. Assuming that the said person has unwanted intentions or so say want to get in bed with you is completely narcissistic and delusional. I don't know many people who are like this or that they are nice just to get in bed with people.

What I can say though is, if the person being nice got nothing out of it being nice they will eventually move on because they don't have the energy to be a modern Ghandi. You can't expect something back from being nice though you want them to be nice for whatever anyway with no intentions. Sounds hypocritical to me.
You're never nice to girls just for the sake of friendship?

Sad.

  • 12.21.2012 12:13 AM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
Antagonizing me to build a false sense of worth is so damn cute.

Brighten your day with science.

OT: Guys who complain that girls don't like then even when they're nice are entitled jackasses. Being a "nice guy" is an admirable trait, but it isn't profound to most, if it was that'd be apparent in today's society. You have to do more. You have to be spontaneous and you have to relate to women. Also, be witty when you can. Girls love wit.

I consider myself a nice guy though sometimes I can be a bit blunt. I don't have a lot of problems talking to women, because they don't phase me, I view them the same way I view males in a certain sense, and I find myself getting along with just as many women as men. My current girlfriend is very genuine, nice and funny. We're really compatible and I think our relationship will last a while.

  • 12.21.2012 12:14 AM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
Antagonizing me to build a false sense of worth is so damn cute.

Brighten your day with science.

Posted by: TH3_AV3NG3R


Dude.

You're too alpha for this forum.

  • 12.21.2012 12:16 AM PDT
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Posted by: Baph117
Canadian Na­zism is a polite ideology, ok?
"Into the boxcar now... there you go. Oh, watch your head. Here, let me help you... Yep, showers are right through there. No problem at all."

Character > Niceness

  • 12.21.2012 12:17 AM PDT

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Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Posted by: Marinade
That too. For a while I was afraid of talking to an attractive woman out of fear that she had a boyfriend. Which I quickly figured out was stupid.

If she has one and I let her know I'm interested. She'll either tell me she has one, or let it continue. Though a few times they let it continue, to a friends with benefits situation, because they wanted to cheat on their boyfriend. I never knew there was one until a while after though. So I don't feel bad about it.
Yeah, I've had a few guys show interest but they've backed off respectfully after I've told them I'm not available. There's definitely no harm in trying. I encourage my male friends to try with girls they like all the time. Some girls really hate being approached because they feel like it's a violation of privacy or personal space, but if you're polite and respectful about it, most girls won't mind. What I really hate is when guys try to talk to me when I have earphones in, because usually if I'm listening to music I don't want to talk to people. Same with people who try to strike up a conversation when I'm reading. But if I'm just sitting around and someone comes up to me, I usually don't mind as long as they back off if/when I ask.

I don't bother talking to a girl that has headphones in or is reading. There's usually little point. If I happen to make eye contact with a girl listening to music I'll usually give her a smile, but that's about it. If she ends up initiating a conversation from there, great.

Posted by: TH3_AV3NG3R
Yeah those women are the easiest to get in bed with. Sometimes it is because their boyfriend sucks at sex.

I've said it before on this forum and I'm going to say it again. From an other man perspective, neglected married women, or just women in a relation, are usually freaks in bed.

  • 12.21.2012 12:21 AM PDT

Posted by: Dustin 6047
Troll confirmed. I never even insulted you

Posted by: Dustin 6047
OP - You're a dumbass with the reading comprehension skills of a second grader.


Can someone tell me what's wrong with these two, this made me LOL hard.


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Posted by: Cr4sh Dummy

Posted by: Koolen
Their mistake is posting online how nice they are and not going out in the real world meeting people and getting to know them.
And the fact they don't treat -blam!-es like -blam!-es.
I posted how nice I am and there's a girl on my bed right now and she's playing Dark Souls. And making me look like a n00b that sucks at Dark Souls.
That's fantastic. Tell me what happens next and see if you have the same perspective.
She beat Seath the Scaleless in 10 hits with a Chaos Zweihander +5 and 30 humanity.

I have yet to kill Seath.

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Posted by: jaythenerdkid

Posted by: Delta SWE
If you want to be nice to a person you expect them at least to care or to be nice back. Assuming that the said person has unwanted intentions or so say want to get in bed with you is completely narcissistic and delusional. I don't know many people who are like this or that they are nice just to get in bed with people.

What I can say though is, if the person being nice got nothing out of it being nice they will eventually move on because they don't have the energy to be a modern Ghandi. You can't expect something back from being nice though you want them to be nice for whatever anyway with no intentions. Sounds hypocritical to me.
You're never nice to girls just for the sake of friendship?

Sad.
I am, and I never said I where not. I like friendship, but every single friend of mine has gone their own way because I am pretty socially awkward as a person. People don't get very much out of being with me and I don't disrespect that just because I know that people have limited energy.

I'm just telling you what I have gone through with how people have dealt with me.

  • 12.21.2012 12:25 AM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
Antagonizing me to build a false sense of worth is so damn cute.

Brighten your day with science.

Jay is like The Flood's relationship guru.

  • 12.21.2012 12:26 AM PDT

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hello i'm nice i'm such a nice guy i do not understand why girls don't like me it must be because i'm too nice yes that is definitely it there couldn't possibly be another reason oh man maybe i should just become an -blam!- to stop myself being friendzoned i'm so nice i'm sick of all these -blam!- -blam!-es choosing -blam!-s over me they're so shallow the stupid whoresThe avatar makes it sound even more wierd.

  • 12.21.2012 12:30 AM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Delta SWE

Posted by: jaythenerdkid

Posted by: Delta SWE
If you want to be nice to a person you expect them at least to care or to be nice back. Assuming that the said person has unwanted intentions or so say want to get in bed with you is completely narcissistic and delusional. I don't know many people who are like this or that they are nice just to get in bed with people.

What I can say though is, if the person being nice got nothing out of it being nice they will eventually move on because they don't have the energy to be a modern Ghandi. You can't expect something back from being nice though you want them to be nice for whatever anyway with no intentions. Sounds hypocritical to me.
You're never nice to girls just for the sake of friendship?

Sad.
I am, and I never said I where not. I like friendship, but every single friend of mine has gone their own way because I am pretty socially awkward as a person. People don't get very much out of being with me and I don't disrespect that just because I know that people have limited energy.

I'm just telling you what I have gone through with how people have dealt with me.
That's...really depressing.

That kind of self-perception probably isn't healthy. Maybe you should see someone about that.

  • 12.21.2012 12:32 AM PDT

No battle is decided in a single moment, although in every battle there arise moments of crisis, on which the result depends. - Carl von Clausewitz

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Posted by: DarkSunnyboy1
Jay is like The Flood's relationship guru.
The only thing I can say is it's fitting.

  • 12.21.2012 12:33 AM PDT

I thought this was something else. I have nice guy syndrome because I can't stop being nice to people. Even people who have hurt me or have done bad things to me, I can't help but respect them, as I do everyone else. I've always been like that, but it sucks because I simply can't get mad.

  • 12.21.2012 12:34 AM PDT

Posted by: Kurosaki_Kun

I know, right?
Jay acts like she's better than everyone else simply because she's a chick.
I hope she chokes to death.


Posted by: Cr4sh Dummy

Posted by: DarkSunnyboy1
Jay is like The Flood's relationship guru.
The only thing I can say is it's fitting.
Can I be honest here?

In my teens, I was totally a Nice Girl. I really, really liked this one guy, and basically all I did for a longggggg time was follow him around, try to do things for him, fawn over him, put him first over other friends who were much better to me...on and on and on. I totally couldn't understand why he wouldn't drop everything and realise that I was the only girl who could ever possibly be right for him. And you know what it got me? Diddly-squat, that's what. When I fiiiiiiiiiiinally confessed my feelings (and was very politely and graciously rejected), I realised that if I'd done so right at the start, I may have actually had a chance, however slim, and by being a wimp for as long as I was (an embarrassingly long time, trust me), I'd basically screwed myself something over something chronic.

Life is learning experience. Sometimes, the lessons hurt. That lesson hurt for quite a while, but at least the pain made it stick. It taught me how to value myself, how to go after what I want, basically a bunch of useful things. Pretty much everything I know about relationships, I learned by doing some really dumb stuff. But since it all ended up leading to a wonderful relationship with a great guy who makes me very happy, I have to say it was totally worth it.

  • 12.21.2012 12:39 AM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
Antagonizing me to build a false sense of worth is so damn cute.

Brighten your day with science.

Most of everyone was like that younger. It took some times for me to confess to the first girl I liked.

Like, a few years. I learned not to chase tails for that long any more.

And I was expecting her to say something. Like me being patient would wear off. But that was about 8 years ago.
Posted by: jaythenerdkid
Can I be honest here?

In my teens, I was totally a Nice Girl. I really, really liked this one guy, and basically all I did for a longggggg time was follow him around, try to do things for him, fawn over him, put him first over other friends who were much better to me...on and on and on. I totally couldn't understand why he wouldn't drop everything and realise that I was the only girl who could ever possibly be right for him. And you know what it got me? Diddly-squat, that's what. When I fiiiiiiiiiiinally confessed my feelings (and was very politely and graciously rejected), I realised that if I'd done so right at the start, I may have actually had a chance, however slim, and by being a wimp for as long as I was (an embarrassingly long time, trust me), I'd basically screwed myself something over something chronic.

Life is learning experience. Sometimes, the lessons hurt. That lesson hurt for quite a while, but at least the pain made it stick. It taught me how to value myself, how to go after what I want, basically a bunch of useful things. Pretty much everything I know about relationships, I learned by doing some really dumb stuff. But since it all ended up leading to a wonderful relationship with a great guy who makes me very happy, I have to say it was totally worth it.

  • 12.21.2012 12:44 AM PDT