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I do not want to stop asking. I do not ask to stop wanting.

I was debating whether or not I should have made this thread, but I guess I've decided now. haven't I?

Today is the last day of the year. It's usually New Year's Eve and all that stuff, and everybody's filled with "holiday cheer" and stuff. Not me. Three years ago to today, my girlfriend's grandfather (father's side) passed away in front of me and her. I remember the day, but I try not to. Now each January 31st we just sort of take the day off to give attention to each other for the entire day. No crying, no sorrow, but just this melancholy tinge in the air.

I don't know why, but a normal death, you can get over. Something like this though, where you actually see it happen in front of you, and have your loved one just break down at your side? That stays with you.

Anybody else ever have a similar experience? A death of somebody really close in front of them (I'm not trying to elicit any locked away memories you might have, sorry if it seemed that way)?

  • 12.31.2012 7:06 AM PDT

I hate MLP. It is cancerous and pretty stupid to see men watching a show for girls. They can deny the truth but the truth shall prevail!

"I will not fail even if I must sacrifice my life." - Siegfried

I watched my dog die. Also, I'm sorry that happened to you.

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  • 12.31.2012 7:07 AM PDT
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And I don't give a damn if you don't like me Cause I don't like you Cause you're not like me And I don't give a damn if you don't like me Cause I don't like you Cause you're not like me And I don't give a damn if you don't like me Cause I don't like you Cause you're not like me And I don't give a damn if you don't like me Cause I don't like you Cause you're not like me


Can not be touched.

I watched my cat of 14 years get put down. It was honestly the most painful thing I have ever experienced.

  • 12.31.2012 7:10 AM PDT

The shadow on the wall.

Silent

I've never had anything bad happen to me on this day, and I'd like to keep it that way.

Sorry for what happened to you OP, even if a sorry from a person you don't know and had no effect means nothing, it's still nice to put in the word.

In fact, aside from my cat getting run over, I've never had anything horrific happen to me. I almost lost my friend to suicide last year though, that would have been rough...

  • 12.31.2012 7:14 AM PDT

Pass the controller bro


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I watched my cat of 14 years get put down. It was honestly the most painful thing I have ever experienced.

When the time comes, I wouldn't be able to watch my cat die. Well, unless it's a natural death and I can't do anything about it. Being put down in a hospital in front of my eyes though? No. Nuh uh.

  • 12.31.2012 7:48 AM PDT

I've seen a deer get torn in half by a truck before. It happened right outside my house. Deer giblets everywhere

  • 12.31.2012 7:55 AM PDT
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I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.

  • 12.31.2012 8:10 AM PDT

Nonsense!

Three of my close friends have died in the past four weeks from various causes, none of them over 20 years old. I'm still coming to terms with it, because it just seems so ridiculous.
Personally I am -blam!- glad this year is over.

  • 12.31.2012 8:25 AM PDT

Halo 3


Posted by: Haloroach
I was debating whether or not I should have made this thread, but I guess I've decided now. haven't I?

Today is the last day of the year. It's usually New Year's Eve and all that stuff, and everybody's filled with "holiday cheer" and stuff. Not me. Three years ago to today, my girlfriend's grandfather (father's side) passed away in front of me and her. I remember the day, but I try not to. Now each January 31st we just sort of take the day off to give attention to each other for the entire day. No crying, no sorrow, but just this melancholy tinge in the air.

I don't know why, but a normal death, you can get over. Something like this though, where you actually see it happen in front of you, and have your loved one just break down at your side? That stays with you.

Anybody else ever have a similar experience? A death of somebody really close in front of them (I'm not trying to elicit any locked away memories you might have, sorry if it seemed that way)?


Death is a part of life, son. All you should need is to acknowledge that it did happen and that it may have changed you as a person.

I mean if you were stricken by the grandfather's death then imagine a death of a parent, or sibling. That's going to be hell.

  • 12.31.2012 8:52 AM PDT
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Posted by: HistoryHighlight
I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.
Harder than watching your future wife and children all die in front of your eyes?

  • 12.31.2012 9:09 AM PDT
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Posted by: Flood Emperor

Posted by: HistoryHighlight
I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.
Harder than watching your future wife and children all die in front of your eyes?


You can't assume I'll live through that. I doubt I'll see my children die, if I have any, and it's more likely that my future wife will die before I. But I can't make a comment because I do not know what that would feel like. Similarly, you can't comment on how much my grandmother dying will be painful, since you don't know how close I am to her.

Death is an objective occurence with subjective effects.

  • 12.31.2012 9:13 AM PDT
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Posted by: Telec
Remember kids: when Uncle Delta tells you he has sweeties, he isn't lying.

Now get in the van.


The Black Chapter


Posted by: HistoryHighlight
I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.


Nah it aint that hard. All mine are dead and really...well you're kinda like 'awwww' for a bit, and its weird seeing your dad cry, after a few months everything is completely back to normal.

  • 12.31.2012 9:16 AM PDT
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Posted by: HistoryHighlight
I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.


Nah it aint that hard. All mine are dead and really...well you're kinda like 'awwww' for a bit, and its weird seeing your dad cry, after a few months everything is completely back to normal.


That's been my experience thus far, it's just difficult to imagine life without her.

  • 12.31.2012 9:17 AM PDT

Halo 3


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Posted by: Flood Emperor

Posted by: HistoryHighlight
I've suffered the death of relatives, nobody too close. But the thought of my grandmother dying bring tears to my eyes, when she actually does die... Jesus it's going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do.
Harder than watching your future wife and children all die in front of your eyes?


You can't assume I'll live through that. I doubt I'll see my children die, if I have any, and it's more likely that my future wife will die before I. But I can't make a comment because I do not know what that would feel like. Similarly, you can't comment on how much my grandmother dying will be painful, since you don't know how close I am to her.

Death is an objective occurence with subjective effects.


"Objective occurrence."

lol

  • 12.31.2012 9:17 AM PDT