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Subject: Just ended my friendship with my bestfriend

Her tweets are saying how she doesn't care and such. I know she cares. I guarantee she's crying right now. I'm trying
Posted by: cameo_cream

Posted by: Decieved Soul
wtf


Judging from your last post I would get out fast. It is very obvious she is suffering from some emotional problems and if she's denying her boyfriend isn't contributing then maybe shes in denial. It seems to me she has been venting this misplaced sadness onto you, wether or not this was because she trusted you or not I do not know.

I think its time to cut all ties to her and move on, because both of you talking is just going to create more problems for you and her. I know this sucks but women are complicated, and ones with emotional problems are extremely hard to deal with - I've known my fair share but nothing like this.

I think you'll find she was really hurt by your text, but -blam!- happens.

  • 01.02.2013 6:15 PM PDT

Well, I've been economical with the truth.


Posted by: Crazy LlamaX
Yeah, a lot of people on THE FLOOD said it was appropriate. Even if you were going to do this whole "difficult" talk do it like a man face-to-face. Sending a text is just childish.

It seems all you managed to do was piss her off, like others have said, just drop it and move on. What's the point of dwelling on this and creating unnecessary drama that's just going to lessen everyone's lives.?
Just gunna put this out there, face to face he probably wouldn't have had enough time to properly think about what he was going to say, and face to face can sometimes make it awkward and jumble with your train of thought. Not saying the whole text thing is right. But at least the OP actually said what he wanted.

  • 01.02.2013 6:15 PM PDT

Posted by: Recon Number 54
Life is a journey, if you spend all of it with your nose in your map, you may miss some of the best parts.

Stupid teenagers.

  • 01.02.2013 6:15 PM PDT

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*derp*

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  • 01.02.2013 6:15 PM PDT

Well, I've been economical with the truth.


Posted by: Decieved Soul
Her tweets are saying how she doesn't care and such. I know she cares. I guarantee she's crying right now. I'm trying
Posted by: cameo_cream

Posted by: Decieved Soul
wtf


Judging from your last post I would get out fast. It is very obvious she is suffering from some emotional problems and if she's denying her boyfriend isn't contributing then maybe shes in denial. It seems to me she has been venting this misplaced sadness onto you, wether or not this was because she trusted you or not I do not know.

I think its time to cut all ties to her and move on, because both of you talking is just going to create more problems for you and her. I know this sucks but women are complicated, and ones with emotional problems are extremely hard to deal with - I've known my fair share but nothing like this.

I think you'll find she was really hurt by your text, but -blam!- happens.
Okay okay, if she's crying then that is none of your concern, don't let this become brutal, now it's time to drop it and move on.

  • 01.02.2013 6:16 PM PDT

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Posted by: Decieved Soul

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*pats shoulder* "That'll do soul that"ll do
I couldn't do it anymore. I couldn't

Hang in there, man. It'll get better, and we're here for you.

  • 01.02.2013 6:17 PM PDT

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Posted by: InToXiCaTi0n

Posted by: Decieved Soul

Posted by: HighCoin
Dude.....you are the biggest man on this forum ive ever seen and you are bigger man than ill ever be. Good job.
:D


Don't smile at that. HighCoin is most probably another person of similar age to you who would do something just as juvenile. You'll learn the hard way that trying to get what you want from a girl by guilt tripping her just leads to worse things down the line. Even if she suddenly 'woke up' and saw you for the angel you think you are, it wouldn't last more than a month. You've already given her everything she needs to destroy you if you do get with her, your balls.

Just drop her if you don't want to talk to her. Good luck.

I was trying to make him feel good. And you know what even if it wasnt a good decision it still took balls. Ive done this before aswell and trust me I regret it, like Foman said it creeps the girl out and she'll probably never talk to you again but like I said BALLS


[Edited on 01.02.2013 6:21 PM PST]

  • 01.02.2013 6:17 PM PDT

:)

Posted by: cameo_cream

Posted by: Decieved Soul
wtf


Judging from your last post I would get out fast. It is very obvious she is suffering from some emotional problems and if she's denying her boyfriend isn't contributing then maybe shes in denial. It seems to me she has been venting this misplaced sadness onto you, wether or not this was because she trusted you or not I do not know.

I think its time to cut all ties to her and move on, because both of you talking is just going to create more problems for you and her. I know this sucks but women are complicated, and ones with emotional problems are extremely hard to deal with - I've known my fair share but nothing like this.

I think you'll find she was really hurt by your text, but -blam!- happens.


I think this was the most thought out and sensible answer here. I think she's just a typical pessimistic teenage girl that's going through that phase of being depressed. And maybe this is all new to him.

I don't know, but I do still think it was a good idea to let her know how he feels. And to everyone saying that it shouldn't have been done by text, have you been paying attention? He can't actually see her ever because she ignores him.

I've never had drama like this in my life haha, honestly I have a clean slate of friendships.

  • 01.02.2013 6:17 PM PDT
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Why were you such a pushover?

  • 01.02.2013 6:17 PM PDT

Well, I've been economical with the truth.


Posted by: HighCoin
and she'll probably never talk to you again
Wasn't that the point?

  • 01.02.2013 6:18 PM PDT

Posted by: C Dirty 4
Reach essentially has put the "I" in "Team".


Remember, the enemy's gate is down

The entire friendzoned thing is so lame. Some guys just can't deal with the fact the girls can be friends with guys without those kinds of thoughts, and when they get denied, its apparently because the girl is a terrible person.

Honestly the entire situation seems like you pushed it too hard, and it made her uncomfortable, and you're interpreting it as her being a jerk. Just my opinion though.


Here's my advice, don't become good friends with a girl you want to date.

  • 01.02.2013 6:19 PM PDT


Posted by: Batchnator95

Posted by: Crazy LlamaX
Yeah, a lot of people on THE FLOOD said it was appropriate. Even if you were going to do this whole "difficult" talk do it like a man face-to-face. Sending a text is just childish.

It seems all you managed to do was piss her off, like others have said, just drop it and move on. What's the point of dwelling on this and creating unnecessary drama that's just going to lessen everyone's lives.?
Just gunna put this out there, face to face he probably wouldn't have had enough time to properly think about what he was going to say, and face to face can sometimes make it awkward and jumble with your train of thought. Not saying the whole text thing is right. But at least the OP actually said what he wanted.

I'm a firm beleiver that things of a more serious matter have to be discussed in actuality, and I, like many others, almost find it insulting to be told things like this in such a way, it feels disrespectful like they didn't care enough to actually talk to you.

Now, yes, it is good that he got what he wanted to say across, but I feel that if this was truly important to him then he should have put heavy thought into what he would say and then say it to her, regardless of how awkward it got, the awkwardness is just a part of it you have to except if you want to truly show that you care.

[Edited on 01.02.2013 6:24 PM PST]

  • 01.02.2013 6:20 PM PDT
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OP you probably think her boyfriend is such a monster, but if you were alpha she would be yours instead of him.

  • 01.02.2013 6:22 PM PDT
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dude... Get over it. She clearly wasnt interested in you, and you were 100% in the wrong on this one. Your putting way too much of the blame on her.

Obviously shes not going to feel comfortable around you with her BF, if you have confessed feelings for her, and make it obvious. Just give the girl her damn space and let things be. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Based on your posting style, you arent over 16 or 17, and if you are you are exceptionally immature for your age. Id expect this sort of drivel out of maybe a 12 or 13 year old to be frank.

Man up, and go find someone else. There is no point in wasting your time with someone who clearly isnt on the same page as you. In the future, if someone rejects you, or friend zones you, just let it be and move on. Stay friends if you want, but draw the line somewhere, because honestly this is pathetic.

If I knew you IRL, id probably have to smack you for being so naive.

  • 01.02.2013 6:22 PM PDT
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lol, kids

  • 01.02.2013 6:22 PM PDT
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I like stuff.

I was in a similar situation. I was bestfriends with a girl for 3 years. Waited through boyfriends, helped her though tough times. We ended up dating. It lasted 2 months, and she broke up with me. I knew it wasn't going to last once we made it official. I was heartbroken. I really didn't know what I was going to do. It took me a few weeks to really get over it. Now that I look back on it, it really was for the best. It won't be easy to get over, but wounds will heal with time.

  • 01.02.2013 6:23 PM PDT

Time heals wounds indeed.
Posted by: iMonochromatic
I was in a similar situation. I was bestfriends with a girl for 3 years. Waited through boyfriends, helped her though tough times. We ended up dating. It lasted 2 months, and she broke up with me. I knew it wasn't going to last once we made it official. I was heartbroken. I really didn't know what I was going to do. It took me a few weeks to really get over it. Now that I look back on it, it really was for the best. It won't be easy to get over, but wounds will heal with time.

  • 01.02.2013 6:26 PM PDT

*scratches nuts*

Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with

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  • 01.02.2013 6:27 PM PDT

I take it you're here for a reason?
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So?

What do you intend to do to get out of this head ball of yours?

  • 01.02.2013 6:28 PM PDT
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Posted by: General Noobus
Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with

Brutally honest

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  • 01.02.2013 6:30 PM PDT

How did you send a text message that long?

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Posted by: HaVOk1228
The entire friendzoned thing is so lame. Some guys just can't deal with the fact the girls can be friends with guys without those kinds of thoughts, and when they get denied, its apparently because the girl is a terrible person.

Honestly the entire situation seems like you pushed it too hard, and it made her uncomfortable, and you're interpreting it as her being a jerk. Just my opinion though.


Here's my advice, don't become good friends with a girl you want to date.



Posted by: meagsIZbeast
dude... Get over it. She clearly wasnt interested in you, and you were 100% in the wrong on this one. Your putting way too much of the blame on her.

Obviously shes not going to feel comfortable around you with her BF, if you have confessed feelings for her, and make it obvious. Just give the girl her damn space and let things be. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Based on your posting style, you arent over 16 or 17, and if you are you are exceptionally immature for your age. Id expect this sort of drivel out of maybe a 12 or 13 year old to be frank.

Man up, and go find someone else. There is no point in wasting your time with someone who clearly isnt on the same page as you. In the future, if someone rejects you, or friend zones you, just let it be and move on. Stay friends if you want, but draw the line somewhere, because honestly this is pathetic.

If I knew you IRL, id probably have to smack you for being so naive.


Posted by: GlLLA
lol, kids

Posted by: General Noobus
Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with


Only advice ITT worth listening to

  • 01.02.2013 6:33 PM PDT

We almost dated when we first met, then stopped talking and then we were bestfriends. I would've told her in person but she can never hangout. Brutally honest indeed, but I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm in no way an emo kid. I'm 6'4" and on the basketball team but okay. Thanks for the input. And dually noted
Posted by: General Noobus
Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with

  • 01.02.2013 6:33 PM PDT

:)

Posted by: General Noobus
Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with


Again, I think this is more about his friendship and less of the dating aspect. Take away how he likes her and then see himself in his situation, and I'm sure she doesn't find this creepy as they are really close friends. She should know what to expect.

  • 01.02.2013 6:34 PM PDT

Posted by: Recon Number 54
Life is a journey, if you spend all of it with your nose in your map, you may miss some of the best parts.


Posted by: meagsIZbeast

Posted by: HaVOk1228
The entire friendzoned thing is so lame. Some guys just can't deal with the fact the girls can be friends with guys without those kinds of thoughts, and when they get denied, its apparently because the girl is a terrible person.

Honestly the entire situation seems like you pushed it too hard, and it made her uncomfortable, and you're interpreting it as her being a jerk. Just my opinion though.


Here's my advice, don't become good friends with a girl you want to date.



Posted by: meagsIZbeast
dude... Get over it. She clearly wasnt interested in you, and you were 100% in the wrong on this one. Your putting way too much of the blame on her.

Obviously shes not going to feel comfortable around you with her BF, if you have confessed feelings for her, and make it obvious. Just give the girl her damn space and let things be. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Based on your posting style, you arent over 16 or 17, and if you are you are exceptionally immature for your age. Id expect this sort of drivel out of maybe a 12 or 13 year old to be frank.

Man up, and go find someone else. There is no point in wasting your time with someone who clearly isnt on the same page as you. In the future, if someone rejects you, or friend zones you, just let it be and move on. Stay friends if you want, but draw the line somewhere, because honestly this is pathetic.

If I knew you IRL, id probably have to smack you for being so naive.


Posted by: GlLLA
lol, kids

Posted by: General Noobus
Absolutely pathetic. She obviously doesn't see you as boyfriend material, most probably because you're an emo little whinger who has absolutely no confidence and comes across as creepy irl. It's not her fault you ended up in the friendzone, it's yours.

Next time don't try to be her goddamn friend, if she's taken already make it known to her that you want her then back off and wait instead of hanging around like a lovesick puppy. There's truth to the saying "Nice guys finish last", don't be overly nice, or even worse try to be friends, with a chick you want to go out with


Only advice ITT worth listening to

  • 01.02.2013 6:35 PM PDT