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Subject: To the kids that have ever been spanked.

It can be abusive it is more than constant. Well by that time your child will need some therapy.

  • 01.03.2013 8:19 PM PDT

I was spanked, but I resent my parents for a different reason.

If you honestly believe spanking is abuse then what are you going to do if you get an unruly child? Sending them to their room/taking their toys away would just make them more unruly, and they're too young to care if you try to sit them down and tell them why what they did was wrong.

When all others forms are exhausted, it serves to as a very serious message to the child that will get through: The behavior will stop if you don't want to get spanked again.

Posted by: NavG123
If it's done often enough I can see how a child can grow to have some resentment towards their parents.


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  • 01.03.2013 8:20 PM PDT

It depends on the consistency of the child being spanked. If he/she must be spanked constantly, then the parents should try alternative methods of discipline really.

  • 01.03.2013 8:21 PM PDT

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I was spanked with the belt until I was like 10 and I'm doing fine, I don't hate my parents and I've never been in any fights or anything like that

  • 01.03.2013 8:21 PM PDT

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Not doing something because you are afraid of being reprimanded is wrong. You should not do something that is wrong simply because you know it's not correct.

  • 01.03.2013 8:21 PM PDT
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Posted by: NavG123
I was never spanked or embarrassed by my parents and now I respect them enough to actually listen to them.

/goodparents


but I respect my parents as well and I was spanked. So to you can a spanking never be effective?
Seems like a very short-term solution.

If it's done often enough I can see how a child can grow to have some resentment towards their parents.


Lets say I hit my sister. I would get spanked for it, I would not want to be spanked again because it hurt, therefore I would not hit my sister again. I guess it depends on the child, but it wasn't short term with me.
You're parents could have also had a serious talk with you and threatened you (not in an intimidating or frightening way) with something that you value.

Of course some people can be spanked and grow up to be fine. Some, of it's done with enough frequency can grow up to have negative feelings towards their parents.


well when I was younger I didn't have the stuff I do now so grounding didn't work. It would typically be a pop or to on the top of the hand. I would be asked if I knew why I was spanked and they made sure I knew.

I would be told that if I repeated the act I would be spanked on my butt, so not wanting to be spanked on the butt I wouldn't do the act again. It was never abusive. Sometimes stuff was taking away or I was sent to my room and that is typically what happened. Spankings were reserved for the worse of deeds

  • 01.03.2013 8:22 PM PDT

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Posted by: UphillMercury
you can temporarily take away a valued possession, you can place them in a corner, or you can threaten them by or by not doing something


These might work.

Might.

These things actually may be counterproductive by inciting emotions of rebellion, disobedience (i.e. simply walking out of time out area), not believing you (choosing not to chasten child), or "What else is there to lose." feelings.

  • 01.03.2013 8:23 PM PDT

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I was but that was because my mother lived in a Military family, so it was what everyone before her did, and my father lived in England, and that's what they did at all of his schools.


Nonetheless, it didn't last long as a form of punishment, which was nice, though they moved to grounding me, which kinda sucked.

  • 01.03.2013 8:24 PM PDT

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Posted by: Gaara444
I was spanked, but I resent my parents for a different reason.

If you honestly believe spanking is abuse then what are you going to do if you get an unruly child? Sending them to their room/taking their toys away would just make them more unruly, and they're too young to care if you try to sit them down and tell them why what they did was wrong.

When all others forms are exhausted, it serves to as a very serious message to the child that will get through: The behavior will stop if you don't want to get spanked again.

Posted by: NavG123
If it's done often enough I can see how a child can grow to have some resentment towards their parents.
When all other forms are exhausted then I agree it's a suitable punishment.

But automatically going to spanking as a normal means of punishment seems like a lazy thing to do. Physical forms of punishment aren't the only type. Like I said before, threatening the child with something of value usually works.

I can see how an irresponsible parent can probably take physical punishments, even something as small as spanking too far and damage their child.

  • 01.03.2013 8:24 PM PDT
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My dad beat me with a belt, kicked me in the back, and almost suffocated me. It was a rare occasions around 1 to 2 times a month. It sucked.

  • 01.03.2013 8:27 PM PDT

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No, spankings aren't abusive. Yes I was spanked. No I was never beaten with a belt, which is most certainly abusive.

  • 01.03.2013 8:28 PM PDT

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Agreed. All the changes are good and add variety. Do we really want another Halo 3? Just running around with one gun and no armor abilities? It's good that 343 wants to try something new. Do we really want the same thing for three more games?


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If your parents need to spank you they are lazy as -blam!-.

I got a spanking along with a grounding and stern lecture. Your claim is invalidated.
They didn't need to spank you, since they were already grounding and stern lecturing you.

  • 01.03.2013 8:30 PM PDT

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Posted by: monitor 16807
If your parents need to spank you they are lazy as -blam!-.

I got a spanking along with a grounding and stern lecture. Your claim is invalidated.
Yea, that claim makes no sense actually. I mean, a lazy parent would do nothing, at the least these parents are, for the most part, taking some sort of action.


In fact, these parents aren't lazy because they are accepting and taking head on the truth that corporal punishment might be unfortunately the only course of actions sometimes. Not only that, but they are using the function, which any parent would know, can be hard on you emotionally. You love your child, and causing it pain like that is never easy.

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Posted by: IslocStarkiller

These might work.

Might.

These things actually may be counterproductive by inciting emotions of rebellion, disobedience (i.e. simply walking out of time out area), not believing you (choosing not to chasten child), or "What else is there to lose." feelings.


As I said, it is at the parent's discretion which punishment to use. As another user mentioned, if the child knows what he/she did wrong, then he/she will know not to repeat it. If discipline is delivered effectively, then the presence of these feelings will, in all likelihood, be less likely to appear. You obviously have to follow through with the punishment, as you said; empty threats won't do anything in the long term. But, as it is with any punishment, if you follow through with it, it can still be effective. For example, if the child leaves the time-out area, you put them back in the area, reset the time-out duration, and repeat until necessary. Children aren't dumb; they'll catch on, bite the bullet, and stay there for the duration. When the time comes for another time-out, they'll know to sit/stand in the time-out area for the full duration, as they'll know it's the quickest way to get off of time-out. Furthermore, as with any punishment, if you provide a reason for the punishment, then it will be much more effective than if the child does not know why he/she is being punished.

  • 01.03.2013 8:33 PM PDT

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If you spank your kids you're incredibly lazy. It's -blam!- parenting.

  • 01.03.2013 8:34 PM PDT

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Posted by: CrazzySnipe55
If you spank your kids you're incredibly lazy. It's -blam!- parenting.

How is it bad and lazy?

  • 01.03.2013 8:36 PM PDT

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I see it as a form of punishment. If i did something wrong then I got punished. After a good spanking I wouldnt do it again.

seriously parents, dont say that you have no control over your kids. you do and you better step up

  • 01.03.2013 8:36 PM PDT
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I was never punishes as a kid, my parent s just educated me in the right way that I won't be violent.

  • 01.03.2013 8:39 PM PDT
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I got spanked as a child. That's discipline. Kids have no backbone any more and everything is assault or abuse. Get over it

  • 01.03.2013 8:40 PM PDT

I was spanked with a belt if I did something bad like hitting my sister or something along those lines. I can see where people can find it as child abuse if you were never spanked. However I would just like to note that a good friend of mine has never been spanked he is a good kid but I must admit he shows no respect to his parents and he can basically say -blam!- you and walk away as nothing has happened. All I know is that stuff would not fly in my house.

  • 01.03.2013 8:41 PM PDT

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Posted by: BC1096
I got spanked as a child. That's discipline. Kids have no backbone any more and everything is assault or abuse. Get over it
The -blam!- pinnacle of stupidity has been reached.

Congratulations.

  • 01.03.2013 8:43 PM PDT

I love being spanked. A paddle or a hairbrush works just fine for me.

OT: As young boy no I was not spanked but we were disciplined.

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Posted by: BC1096
I got spanked as a child. That's discipline. Kids have no backbone any more and everything is assault or abuse. Get over it


Yell at your kid and it's abuse these days.

  • 01.03.2013 8:44 PM PDT