- neyo245
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Posted by: EPANDEMIC
Posted by: neyo245
I was spanked with a belt if I did something bad like hitting my sister or something along those lines. I can see where people can find it as child abuse if you were never spanked. However I would just like to note that a good friend of mine has never been spanked he is a good kid but I must admit he shows no respect to his parents and he can basically say -blam!- you and walk away as nothing has happened. All I know is that stuff would not fly in my house.
Idk how much I'd equate spanking to respect, you don't know every childs relationship with their parents. I won't go into my whole story about my parents but I wasn't spanked and I had very little respect for my parents growing up but the two are completely unrelated. I was never spanked because I was a very mature kid and never did anything that warranted it, not because my parents didn't believe in it (they spanked my brother and sister quite a bit). And I had little respect for them based on a series of events that happened between 7th grade and my senior year of high school between me and them or each other that made me lose respect for them as people. It wasn't because I took things for granted or didn't appreciate the things they did for me, but because of how they acted towards me, each other and other people. And to further prove my point, my brother and sister who they did spank are just as disrespectful if not worse.
That all being said, you don't know your friends relationship with his parents. Maybe they didn't spank him but were -blam!- parents otherwise. It could very well have nothing to do with the amount of times their hands met his ass.
I also know for a fact that both my parents came from strictly religious households and were hit hard and often as punishment for even the smallest of offenses, both by their parents and by nuns. And both of them, as well as a majority of my aunts and uncles, are incredibly controlling and insecure individuals, and likely have a slew of undiagnosed mental problems. Not to mention there are more failed marriages in my family than successful ones, my parents included. Not saying that those to things are related but, take that as you will.
Thank you for the reply. This makes me think about how every child's relationship with their parents are different. You are also right I wasn't their when they raised him. I don't have any kids, who am I to judge?