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Subject: What is the purpose of dating before you turn 18?

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  • 01.04.2013 12:00 AM PDT

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Um okay this thread is pretty odd. I'm just going to say different people are, well, different. Which means some are mentally more mature than others.

I met the love of my life on here, the Flood. After a few weeks of messaging each other back and forth, we decide to meet up IRL. A few weeks after we meet up we began a relationship. I was 15 at the time, and he was 19.

Today, I am 17 and he is 21, and we are still going strong. Our relationship has, of course, has had its ups and downs, but there is no "drama" like there would be in a relationship between two immature people. We have sex and there isn't any problem other than my physical issues.

I believe the success of my relationship so far has been helped by my past immature relationships. My maturity significantly increased after those past relationships and towards the beginning of my current relationship.

I know of a friend of mine's mother who is in, what my friend describes as, a "non-relationship" with some married man. Both of them are being so incredibly immature about it. They both work in the same office and everyday there is gossip about both of them and what's going on between them. My friend's mother insists this isn't a relationship but her and her "non-boyfriend" go out on dates all the time; behind the guy's wife's back. They also physically kiss, on the lips.

So, as I said before, everyone is different and some people are more mature than others when it comes to things like this. Or rather, people mature at different ages than other people.


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  • 01.04.2013 12:17 AM PDT

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I think nowadays we correlate someone's age and maturity too closely. Not a few hundred years ago people would have been married by 15 and starting their own independent lives from their parents.

Perhaps the reason people feel that teenagers are too immature for relationships is because as a society we delay exposing them to adult life. This in turn makes them seem immature because we made them that way. Instead of presenting challenges to them at a younger age so they could mature earlier we "protect" them from the real world.

  • 01.04.2013 12:35 AM PDT

Studies show that men think about sex every 7 seconds. I do my best to eat hotdogs in under 6, just so things don't get weird.

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The point I to gain experience for later in life. When you are young you are relatively consequence free. So, use the time like a training level in a video game. Knowing how to flirt early on makes life much easier.

  • 01.04.2013 12:37 AM PDT

Sex, having fun, getting to know how to interact with the opposite sex intimately, and so on.

  • 01.04.2013 12:37 AM PDT

I've always thought of my relationships as just being fun. Simple as that. Plain fun. It's taking the time to enjoy your life with another person. What if that person doesn't work out, you ask? Well, then try out another person. Don't approach dating with the narrow focus of getting married; actually enjoy your time with that special person and realize that dating before 18+ is just for pure fun.

  • 01.04.2013 12:38 AM PDT
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For practice, to gain experience, to get laid, to have fun and because it is still possible to have meaningful relationships prior to being 18.

Why the hell wouldn't you have a relationship if there's someone willing out there? You don't want to be some weirdo in their mid-20s who has no expereince whatsoever.

  • 01.04.2013 1:17 AM PDT

I agree with the OP 100%, however unlike the OP I've never dated someone before and I'm 19.

I wanted to but I wasn't good at it so I gave up. Then I began thinking what's the point? Like really? I'm not going to have sex with this person and I don't really want to obscure my purity. After thinking things through I realized that I just wanted a good friend who was of the opposite sex and that I would let things progress further after college.

  • 01.04.2013 1:23 AM PDT

Social development obv.

  • 01.04.2013 1:31 AM PDT

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Posted by: StorySan

I'm ok with being best friends with girls, but I think that you shouldnt be making out and sleeping with people until after you are able to actually pay for a gf/bf


There is a term for dating a partner you pay for.
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  • 01.04.2013 1:36 AM PDT
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wow, sex is the only thing on the flood's mind. so much fail here.

  • 01.04.2013 2:13 PM PDT

I believe the implication is that it's completely impossible to love another person at that age. Heck, I have friends that having been in relationships since they were in the 8th grade (we are 19 and in college now).

I guess I'm just saying not to knock it, OP.

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  • 01.04.2013 2:14 PM PDT

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Posted by: oaklandp8ntbalr
Dating =/= sex 24/7


I hope you are serious about this. Anyway, dating means that you trying to get to know the other person better while letting them get to know you (hopefuly from the better side) and some time after you wuld like to start a relationship with that person. As it happens most people arent so responsible until they grow up. At 18, society believes that you are mature and responsible enough to understand how serious relationships are.

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  • 01.04.2013 2:16 PM PDT
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Lust. Pointless lust.

  • 01.04.2013 2:16 PM PDT
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Smash n pass.

  • 01.04.2013 2:17 PM PDT

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OP, I began dating seriously when I was 17, and I've been with that same girl for over 3 and a half years.

  • 01.04.2013 2:17 PM PDT
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So you would rather grow in maturity at the expense of your purity, innocence, and heart? I dont understand.

  • 01.04.2013 2:17 PM PDT

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Is dating to you just a "search for marriage"? There is no purpose. It's just fun. Do you know what fun is?

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OP, I began dating seriously when I was 17, and I've been with that same girl for over 3 and a half years.


that's ok, 17-19...lines can blur there.

  • 01.04.2013 2:17 PM PDT
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Posted by: regimechange
Is dating to you just a "search for marriage"? There is no purpose. It's just fun. Do you know what fun is?


I know exactly what fun is, and it is certainly not having sex with a different girl every week.

yet, I refuse to damage girls by having sex with them and breaking their hearts.

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  • 01.04.2013 2:18 PM PDT

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Posted by: StorySan

Posted by: theHurtfulTurkey
OP, I began dating seriously when I was 17, and I've been with that same girl for over 3 and a half years.


that's ok, 17-19...lines can blur there.


But she was 16, so now your line is even farther back.

  • 01.04.2013 2:18 PM PDT

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Posted by: StorySan

Posted by: regimechange
Is dating to you just a "search for marriage"? There is no purpose. It's just fun. Do you know what fun is?


I know exactly what fun is, I refuse to damage girls by having sex with them and breaking their hearts.


When did I say sex? When did I say break their hearts? I've been in 2 high school relationships. Neither involved sex or very much heartbreak.

  • 01.04.2013 2:19 PM PDT
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Another floodian making excuses for why he can't get a gf.

Making it seem like you don't actually want one or that it's pointless. Lol.

  • 01.04.2013 2:19 PM PDT
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Posted by: theHurtfulTurkey

Posted by: StorySan

Posted by: theHurtfulTurkey
OP, I began dating seriously when I was 17, and I've been with that same girl for over 3 and a half years.


that's ok, 17-19...lines can blur there.


But she was 16, so now your line is even farther back.


you didn't mention that. but still, are you able to buy her things? are you able to promise that you will buy her a house/apartment for when you have kid(s)? Do you have a good start on your future career?

  • 01.04.2013 2:20 PM PDT
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Posted by: regimechange

Posted by: StorySan

Posted by: regimechange
Is dating to you just a "search for marriage"? There is no purpose. It's just fun. Do you know what fun is?


I know exactly what fun is, I refuse to damage girls by having sex with them and breaking their hearts.


When did I say sex? When did I say break their hearts? I've been in 2 high school relationships. Neither involved sex or very much heartbreak.


wait....you are saying that you can have fun without sex?? :O no way!

I dont believe that there was little heartbreak.

btw yes, dating is a search for my future mate

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  • 01.04.2013 2:21 PM PDT