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Subject: Let's talk about the fear of dying alone.

There is something that I've been contemplating about lately. The thoughts of dying alone, love, marriage, etc. There are some couples I've met, we all have, that do not belong together. The constant arguing, disagreements, list goes on. Yet, the couple is still whole.

Of course I have been curious to ask "Why" they're still together, never do. So one day I began to think. I've seen many couples in this dilemma. Then the realization hit me, they're afraid to die alone. These are just my thoughts and opinions on this predicament. I figured I'd like to discuss it with some.

The fear of dying alone is common. I believe it's a fear that everyone in the world has. It's a mutual feeling. We have young people, such as the ones on BNet, that have nothing close to a partner. Sorry for being blunt, just being honest. But everyone's time will come. I promise.

Let's set an example here. You have a guy that's around the age of 25. He's had a few girlfriends. Nothing ever really got serious. None of the relationships lasted over a year. What ended those relationships was self-loathing, wasn't a confident guy at all, never really cared for her feelings, etc.

He's had enough with being alone for so long. He lowers his standards. Any girl will do basically. As long has he is attracted to her a little bit. He'll settle for anyone as long as he has someone. He'll have the female compassion and someone to hold at night.

Which the fear of dying alone comes into play and my question to you all. Do you think a lot of people in this world will take anyone they can just so they can dodge the loneliness? Kind of a silly question, but if you get the big picture here, it makes a lot of sense for a lot of couples in the world.

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This is an odd thread.

  • 01.06.2013 10:55 PM PDT

in·dif·fer·ence
the fact or state of being indifferent; lack of care or concern and empathy demonstrated by an absence of emotional reactions.

I prefer being alone.
So it's fine with me.

  • 01.06.2013 11:01 PM PDT

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I'm not afraid of dying alone, OP.

I am afraid of dying without making a mark upon the vast wall that is history.

  • 01.06.2013 11:02 PM PDT

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It's not about dying alone the problem, but how satisfied are you with what you've done with the time given.

  • 01.06.2013 11:02 PM PDT

"There's a very fine line between not listening, and not caring. I'd like to think that I walk that line every day."

I think the 'dying' part is kind of a hit or miss.

Loneliness, that could be a common factor.

  • 01.06.2013 11:03 PM PDT

Posted by: Arbiter 739
I'm not afraid of dying alone, OP.

I am afraid of dying without making a mark upon the vast wall that is history.

Leaving a legacy behind is something we have in common. Although, ours are entirely different. Since yours is so large scaled.

  • 01.06.2013 11:04 PM PDT

Posted by: BROWN HAWK
I think the 'dying' part is kind of a hit or miss.

Loneliness, that could be a common factor.

Well usually when you ask peoples fears and they'll reply, "Dying alone". Instead of saying, "just being alone". It's a misconception, I guess, but it all follows the same guidelines.

  • 01.06.2013 11:06 PM PDT

I've gotten over my fear of dying, let alone by myself. It's simple, really. I just stopped caring.

The hard part is to find a reason to keep going (which I've yet to find.) But so long as I have my dog and my cat, I'm "okay."

  • 01.06.2013 11:08 PM PDT

Posted by: Kuhgrok Anthorm
I've gotten over my fear of dying, let alone by myself. It's simple, really. I just stopped caring.

The hard part is to find a reason to keep going (which I've yet to find.) But so long as I have my dog and my cat, I'm "okay."

You need to find something motivating.

  • 01.06.2013 11:09 PM PDT

"Life is constantly fleeting from your grasp even from the very day it's bestowed upon you, but the shadow of death is always there, waiting for its chance to take you away."

"Even though many may not think so, ignorance and innocence are one and the same. The only difference is that one sounds nicer."

"I once knew a man who spent his entire life contemplating where we go after our death....it's a shame he realized it a second too late to tell anyone."

Meh, I don't fear dying alone...primarily since I know that I won't have to, though.

  • 01.06.2013 11:10 PM PDT

If we disagree, it's nothing personal, opinions are opinions.
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  • 01.06.2013 11:12 PM PDT

"There's a very fine line between not listening, and not caring. I'd like to think that I walk that line every day."

Posted by: I3 O O lVI E R
Posted by: BROWN HAWK
I think the 'dying' part is kind of a hit or miss.

Loneliness, that could be a common factor.
Well usually when you ask peoples fears and they'll reply, "Dying alone". Instead of saying, "just being alone". It's a misconception, I guess, but it all follows the same guidelines.
I just think, Everyone dies alone, really. In my opinion, strictly speaking. I'm not going to steer that idea somewhere I shouldn't go . . .
I think it's just peace of mind, having someone there for you in your last moments.
But I don't think many relationships are formed on that foundation, of having someone to be there for your death (which, is absolutely no guarantee -- so many people do, literally, die alone). That's like, morbidly foresightful.
"Hey, so, umm, wanna get married so we have a better chance of not dying alone?"

[Edited on 01.06.2013 11:15 PM PST]

  • 01.06.2013 11:14 PM PDT

every living creature dies alone.

  • 01.06.2013 11:14 PM PDT

Posted by: BROWN HAWK
Posted by: I3 O O lVI E R
Posted by: BROWN HAWK
I think the 'dying' part is kind of a hit or miss.

Loneliness, that could be a common factor.
Well usually when you ask peoples fears and they'll reply, "Dying alone". Instead of saying, "just being alone". It's a misconception, I guess, but it all follows the same guidelines.
I just think, Everyone dies alone, really. In my opinion, strictly speaking. I'm not going to steer that idea somewhere I shouldn't go . . .
I think it's just peace of mind, having someone there for you in your last moments.
But I don't think many relationships are formed on that foundation, of having someone to be there for your death (which, is absolutely no guarantee -- so many people do, literally, die alone). That's like, morbidly foresightful.

Touche. Mostly where I was getting to the point at was if people just meet anyone, marry them, just to have someone. Instead of dealing with the loneliness, which is basically what you're implying. I wasn't very elaborate with my OP. Tired.

  • 01.06.2013 11:17 PM PDT

"There's a very fine line between not listening, and not caring. I'd like to think that I walk that line every day."

Posted by: I3 O O lVI E R
Touche. Mostly where I was getting to the point at was if people just meet anyone, marry them, just to have someone. Instead of dealing with the loneliness, which is basically what you're implying. I wasn't very elaborate with my OP. Tired.
It's k, I'm not very good at understanding other people's intentions.

I think it's a blurred line. Fear of dying alone is sort of not wanting to be stricken with loneliness, so I guess one can be taken for the other.

Of course, it's pretty much human nature to desire company (a mate, I guess I could say). So there's that, as well.

It baffles me as well, why some couples stay together when it's so clearly not a happy relationship (not that I can vouch for what is).

[Edited on 01.06.2013 11:22 PM PST]

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So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.

-Gandalf

Posted by: ColdHoboKiller14
I prefer being alone.
So it's fine with me.

  • 01.06.2013 11:21 PM PDT

Posted by: BROWN HAWK
Posted by: I3 O O lVI E R
Touche. Mostly where I was getting to the point at was if people just meet anyone, marry them, just to have someone. Instead of dealing with the loneliness, which is basically what you're implying. I wasn't very elaborate with my OP. Tired.
It's k, I'm not very good at understanding other people's intentions.

I think it's a blurred line. Fear of dying alone is sort of not wanting to be stricken with loneliness, so I guess one can be taken for the other.

Of course, it's pretty much human nature to desire company (a mate, I guess I could say). So there's that, as well.

It baffles me as well, why some couples stay together when it's so clearly not a happy relationship (not that I can vouch for what is).

Exactly. A lot of people tend to isolate themselves from the outside. Being really independent and only relying on themselves. It can only go on for so long, because we all have needs. Eventually you'll be dependent on others and like you said, want a mate. I'm really into psychology, by the way.

  • 01.06.2013 11:25 PM PDT

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It's a mechanism that facilitates monogamy and breeding in general.

Our minds didn't have to evolve to dread death (more than immediate fear), but they did, and I think this is the reason.

  • 01.06.2013 11:26 PM PDT

Why are all of your threads so depressing? Something getting you down?

  • 01.06.2013 11:27 PM PDT

Everyone dies alone. Your loved ones wont come with you.

  • 01.06.2013 11:27 PM PDT

It's a fear that's quite high right now after some events that conspired tonight between me and who will probably soon be my ex.

Of course, my fear of dying with the wrong person kind of overrides my fear of dying alone, so all's well I guess.

  • 01.06.2013 11:28 PM PDT

Posted by: Miz KillZone
Why are all of your threads so depressing? Something getting you down?

I'm at a really weird place in my life right now.

  • 01.06.2013 11:28 PM PDT

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Posted by: Arbiter 739
I'm not afraid of dying alone, OP.

I am afraid of dying without making a mark upon the vast wall that is history.

What if you had to choose from either dying alone, or doing something so terrible that you'll become nationally known?

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I really don't care whether I get married. I don't ever want to have kids, so it doesn't really matter to me.

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