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Posted by: I3 O O lVI E R
A week ago I had a miscarriage with my "fun" buddy. She was a little more than that. We weren't necessarily dating. But we were always hanging around each other. Pretty much a relationship, just wasn't labeled as that. We found out she was pregnant. Overwhelmed by the fact it happened. Scared, but as strange as it is, excited.
We talked it out how we were going to handle everything. With the family and friends. It was something that just stayed between us. Unspoken of. Now were were officially together, no one knew. We were both petrified what everyone was going to say. Since we are so young and haven't achieved our goals and financially stable.
I told her I would stay with her through thick and thin. She said the same. She had the miscarriage. She pretty much exiled me out of her life. It's nice to know she felt obligated to stay with me. Not because she "wanted" to but because she felt she had too. Instead of being honest, she lied.
Of course shes a human being and this was a sudden change to both our lives, it would have been fine if she didn't want me in those aspects. She showed her true colors toward me. She was selfish. It could have been anyone there with her to expose the news. Anyone, so she wouldn't be alone.
I was just the guy that did this to her.
Thats some heavy stuff man. I can't pretend I can relate to that kind of instance, but I think I've suffered enough in my life to see where you're coming from.
As for the "showing her true colors" bit, yeah it sucks. Doesn't mean she's absolutely selfish. While you were both going through something big, who knows exactly how she felt and how things affected her worldview. Its hard to say.
Its probably not what you want to hear right now, but time apart and not contacting her will make you feel better.
I also can't pretend like I have valid or professional opinion, but if you're really feeling down and need to talk this out with someone- you should definitely talk to someone. A therapist of sorts.
Its also probably a bad example given the subject of your thread, but after my ex broke up with me my depression (not saying you are, but you very well could be) got even worse. I went to a therapist and eventually got around to self help and there were vast improvements.
(I'm only suggesting this because you sound upset with the "Everything is negative", "its hard to be optimistic", and the situation above).
Maybe you can work through this and identify some other things in your life that you referenced as negative earlier in the thread.
Hang in there guy. <3 internet pal brohugs